LET’S TALK ABOUT SEX BLOG
Here's three necessary pathways that both women AND men need to get comfortable with to enjoy ecstatic sex and an overflow of orgasmic energy.
Many, many couples make the mistake of committing to someone because their heart centre says YES, but their sex centre was always NO. Or, their sex centre was YES, so the sex was fucking great, but deep down their heart and intuition always felt off. There’s so many different combinations of the YES’S and NO’S, but I find this process very handy when choosing who we interact with sexually and who we enter into committed relationships with.
What does sexual empowerment look and feel like? And how can we as women feel more sexually empowered on a daily basis? Well, sexual empowerment begins within; it’s not something we can pay for, and definitely not something that comes easy. A sexually empowered woman is a woman who embraces her sexuality, owns her deep desires and devotes time to working on herself so that she can enjoy a deeply loving relationship firstly with herself, and then with others. Sexual empowerment is a life-long work-in-progress, a way of being that flows, changes and grows with time and life experience.
We all want to be experiencing great sex, right? Most of us dream of experiencing lots of fun, healthy, connected, ecstatic sex, preferably on a daily basis … unfortunately though, most of us aren’t experiencing sex this way. One of the big reasons for this is most likely because the majority of us have never been educated about why communication is so important.
The difference between what the masculine and feminine need in a relationship is BIG.
Everything about the feminine is about LOVE. And everything about the masculine is about FREEDOM. If you’re in your feminine, your value is LOVE and you want a partner in their masculine who fills your life with love. If you’re in your masculine, your highest value is FREEDOM, and you want a partner in their feminine who helps you feel FREE.
How much of yourself are you sharing with your lover/beloved/partner, and how much are you holding back? To what extent do you shrink parts of yourself to fit in and avoid being ‘too much’ - too emotional, too crazy, too loving, too sexual, too loud, too quiet, too opinionated, too honest, too needy ... etc? I’m asking these questions because all too often we (myself included) push parts of ourselves down in fear of scaring our partner away, or in fear of our partner not being able to embrace and love ALL of us - the good, the bad and the fucking ugly.
The sacred art of pussy worship, is it even a thing? Yes, yes it is. And if you’re new to the idea of pussy worship then sit tight, because you’re about to learn a thing or two about what it really means to truly love a woman in her entirety. Pussy, Yoni, Vagina, Vulva, Cunt, Kitty, Flower … to be honest it really doesn’t matter what we call it, what matters is that we ALL honour and worship every woman’s pussy like a fucking temple. A temple that demands deep reverence, love and full respect. The gift of the sacred art of pussy worship is that the woman who is receiving can do just that; surrender to the man (or woman) who is worshipping them and receive the gift of presence and pleasure that unfolds.
Last night I spent the evening exploring the SLUT archetype through dance, movement and expression at Dancing Eros. All too often this powerful archetype is lost in a sea of slut shaming, guilt and misrepresentation in the media. We grow up believing that to embody this archetype is wrong, or ‘too much’, or too ‘promiscuous’. What I’ve come to learn through exploring this archetype over the past couple of years is that when we as women can fully embody our Slut, in true authenticity and love, then we are embodying the essence of what it is to feel sexually empowered and free.
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Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Elaine about sexuality as life force energy, sexual fantasy, what she loves about her body, what turns her on and her self-pleasure rituals.
It’s no surprise that both the topic of sex and money still hold so much taboo and are surrounded with a whole heap of stigma and shame that gets in the way of us giving ourselves PERMISSION to experience lots of BOTH in our life. My personal belief is that the real ‘TANTRIC WAY’ embraces it ALL - abundant sex AND abundant cash flow. And so, living a ‘Tantric life’ is about breaking through the shame, guilt and unworthiness associated with sex and money, and stepping into a life that creates abundance on all levels! Because let’s face it, abundant money and conscious sex has the potential to bring an abundance of freedom and joy.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I spoke to Claire about why coming off the pill opened her up to experiencing sex and womanhood differently, self-pleasure as a child, libido and identifying as 'heteroflexible'.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Charlotte about self-pleasure, heart break, what she loves about her body, losing her Mum at age 29 and the sexual fantasy that turns her on the most.
As women, when we allow ourselves to be penetrated by another, we open our pussy and womb space (and quite possibly mouth and ass) up to the consciousness of our chosen lover. We take them into us physically and, we take them into us energetically. We absorb their consciousness into our entire being. Often when this happens we open ourselves up to all sorts of emotions and feelings that impact us on a deep level in both positive and negative ways.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Susana about what she looks for in a lover, the specific moment she entered womanhood, her long-distance relationship and her self-pleasure practice.
Over the past few months I have supercharged my manifesting skills in life by exploring and creating with sex magic. Sex magic, put simply, is using the power of our sexual and orgasmic energy to manifest exactly what we want in life. Sex magic can be practiced anytime, anywhere. When we allow ourselves to tap into the power of manifesting during self-pleasure, or love-making with a lover/beloved, we are tapping into the power of our life force energy and creating from a space of pure consciousness and love.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Steph about embracing her european genetics, her relationship to work and self love, the impact dance has had on her sexuality and her regular massage date with her childhood sweetheart.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Tiff about her recent discovery of her bisexuality, her struggle with self-pleasure and her religious upbringing, what she looks for in a lover and what really turns her on.
Education and ongoing growth is the key to living a life full of amazing sex, intimacy and connection with ourself and with others. Aside from my own book, Ecstatic Sex & Deep Intimacy, I recommend these following books as resources that have changed my life and expanded my own experience sex, orgasm and love.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Elizabeth about her beautiful relationship with her husband, her love of her own breasts and experience of breast augmentation, things she loves about her body that she's struggled with in the past, and other women who inspire her sexually.
Join me and others in supporting the elevation of sensuality, consciousness, embodiment, sexuality, intimacy, heart-fullness, art, beauty & life-force energy! In February 2018 I am facilitating workshops at the SPIRIT OF INTIMACY in Goa, India.
Next time somebody in your life triggers you (aka annoys you, pisses you off, makes you feel angry, sad, frustrated ... generally puts your whole body & mind into a feeling of distress), I encourage you to take a few moments to reflect on why you feel so affected by this person? You see, it's easy to instantly react and blame, tame and shame others - to make them 'wrong', to bitch and gossip, or even worse, collude with others behind their back.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Ivirlei about her love of sexy lingerie, what she loves most about her body, her journey into womanhood, her boudoir style bedroom and her self-love routine.
Today I'm feeling to talk about vulnerability and sharing our truth as individuals. I'm sharing about this because it's something that I'm exploring deeply within myself and it keeps showing up in my life as a challenge. You see, I share a lot of myself on social media and with my friends, but often when it comes to intimate relationships, I've noticed I hold back a little ... it's like I don't want to be 'too much' - too opinionated, too sexual, too business-focussed, too spiritual, too loving, too alternative, too mainstream, too crazy, too horny, too hippy ... fucking hell, it's crazy how we can judge ourselves and keep ourselves small just to please others.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Dorottya about the moment she entered womanhood, her stretch marks, the women in her life who inspire her most, what she seeks in a lover and her self-love practices.
Women, what's your relationship like with your cycle and your menstrual blood? How in tune with your body are you at the different stages of your cycle throughout the month? What do you do to honour your body during the time that you bleed? I'm asking these questions, because I wish someone had asked them of me years ago. You see, for years, I was that woman who 'pushed through' my period; I numbed my cramps with pain killers, plugged myself with tampons and kept working and exercising like a mad woman.
Within us ALL is the masculine and feminine energy, regardless of whether we have a penis or vagina. The healthy mature masculine is deeply present, holds space, witnesses without judgement, creates safety, is on purpose and has integrity and awareness. The healthy mature feminine flows, surrenders, is playful, vulnerable, compassionate, authentic and intuitive.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Jessica about her love of women, how her moon cycle influences her drive for sex, her BDSM sexual fantasy, and her desire for deep profound connection.
The sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.
As we move into the new solstice, now is the perfect time to take a moment for a mid-year review. You have the opportunity, right now, to stop and reflect on what you would like to open yourself up to and manifest in the second half of 2018.