Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it …
Firstly, allow me to address those of you who don’t enjoy anal, or those of you who refuse to even go there … I want you to know it’s ok that you don't like it, ‘cos let’s face it, not everyone likes everything. And if you refuse to try it, that’s ok too … consider though that after reading this your thoughts may change and you may feel yourself open to the possibility of experience anal sex for the first time.
So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience:
#1 Take it slow, slow, slow
Like anything, it’s really important that you don’t rush into anal before you are BOTH really, really turned on and ready. So gentleman, take your time with your woman and DO NOT under any circumstances think it’s ok just to shove your cock in within minutes. Begin with gentle licking and touching of the area around her ass … her entire ass, not just her anus … explore her body, kiss her everywhere … taste her … listen to her breathe, listen to her sounds … you will know when she’s warming up, you will hear it and feel it in her body. Tease her.
When you feel she’s be ready to be penetrated, ask her. And when she says yes (she may already be saying yes with her body and her sound … begging you with her moaning to have you inside her) then use a finger first. Gently. There’s no point in rushing this … stop being goal-oriented and enjoy every. single. moment. with Her.
#2 Use A lOT of lube
Don’t be sparse with the lube, I guarantee the more lube the better. Plenty of lubricant will allow for anal penetration to feel smoother and more pleasurable. FYI - some women get super lubed up naturally and some women don’t. There is no right and wrong when it comes to how much lube women produce. Generally though, when a woman is turned on and feels connected to her lover, her pussy will be wetter than usual. But this is her ass we are talking about, and it's a sensitive area, so when you think you have enough lube, add more. I recommend always having extra natural organic lube on hand (for anal in particular). Or organic coconut oil (but don’t use coconut oil with condoms). My favourite natural lubricant is YES Organic Lubricant.
#3 Relax, relax, relax
Anal sex will never be pleasurable if you’re not completely relaxed in your mind and body. So, if you’re feeling super uptight and stressed, I encourage you to chill the f*ck out (in life, and in the bedroom). And when you are ready to surrender to anal sex, remember to breathe and relax the muscles around your ass and pussy. Don’t stop breathing! Breathe that cock in. One. Breathe. At. A. Time.
#4 Experiment with different positions
For some reason lots of people assume that anal has to be done in doggy style … this is far from the truth. You can experience anal sex in every position possible. I recommend beginning with the woman sitting on top of the man, this gives her control over how much cock she wants inside her and how slow or fast she wants it. Missionary is also a great position for anal. But like anything we are all so unique with what feels good sexually … so experiment with your lover and find what positions feel great for you both.
#5 Surrender to the deep erotic experience that anal has to offer
Anal can be an immensely sensual and spiritual sexual experience. When a woman takes a man deep inside her it can bring about an opening and a surrender that she has never experienced before. Therefore, I encourage you both to truly honour just how amazing anal sex is, and don’t ever do it if you’re not feeling ready to completely surrender to the feelings and sensations that it creates within your body, mind and soul. Anal sex can be a gateway into deep sexual ecstasy,, and orgasm, open your mind to that idea and the possibilities are endless.
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