It seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
With this in mind there are a few pieces of advice that I would like to impart that may give you the opportunity to turn your relationship around, and keep the woman you love for longer.
Ask her questions and get to know her
If your woman matters to you, then ask her questions and get to know her outside of the bedroom. You may initially be able to flatter her with compliments and sexy moves, but women are smart and will notice if you don’t seem interested in their mind, life interests and career. Give your woman the attention she deserves and show interest in all that matters in her life.
Hold her hand and look into her eyes
Women love the little things in life. Let your woman know how much you love her by looking into her eyes for no reason, holding her hand and kissing her hello and goodbye when you see her. These simple little gestures will mean the world to her and will activate feelings of love and attraction.
Make her feel special and remain exclusive
Holding onto past relationships and lovers will get you absolutely nowhere. Facebook flirts and cute texts with other women/men will not be tolerated and before long you’ll lose your woman and be back to square one. Sort out your relationship baggage and let go for good.
When you are with her, stop checking your phone and instead focus on being present
Don’t assume that your partner has nothing better to do than sit across the table from you at lunch and watch you ‘check your phone’. All women want to feel is that the time you spend with them is valuable and that you respect and love them enough to want to be present while you are in her company.
This article was published in Juliet's regular Saturday column in the Gold Coast Bulletin 9th May 2015