I’ve never been a lube man. Not since I masturbated with the family soap (which stung) and it put me off ‘lube’ for life.
Usually, lube for anal sex is necessary. Like, very necessary. But unfortunately the skin in and around the anus is a sensitive area. (Which I suppose is why it feels so good.) Often, when my boyfriend and I use lube it irritates and burns the…well, shit out of me – figuratively speaking. I avoid it as much as possible and try to go with the natural 'Brokeback Mountain' style of ‘spit and nothing’, which seems to work okay.
My boyfriend and I got some samples of Sylk lube: promoted as natural, eco-sexy and great for the vagina; or in our case, the anus. It even suggests different ways of using it on the package: “Get over that tampon ouch by putting a small dot on the tampon!” or “Great when you’re pregnant and dry after breast feeding.” (Whatever that means.)
So, after some casual rimming, I was ready for penetration, and my boyfriend grabbed the small sample packet and applied it with caution. I honestly wasn’t even sure if he had put any on me. It was light, burn-free, and room temperature. Just how I like it.
Needless to say the lube served its purpose, if not necessarily enhancing my experience. A few days later, with my boyfriend passed out on the bed after a romantic dinner, there was nothing for it but to try Sylk by myself.
Now, as I said, I’m not much of a lube man, and being circumcised at the age of eighteen, I’ve never quite got the hang of how lube works without foreskin. I decided to mimic my boyfriend when he masturbates; it tends to be all about the knob – the wetter the better. I put a dab on my hand and decided to just go for it, no mucking around. With my back arched, one foot on the edge of the bath and holding myself steady on the toilet, I moved my hand around, massaging slightly with my thumb.
Before I knew it, I was out of breath and making noises like I was being punched in the gut over and over again. It didn’t take long before I was ejaculating and convulsing like I’d just had the best sex of my life! I do not kid you.
Look, all I can say is that Sylk is pretty amazing. It actually seems to increase sensitivity. The down sides: it’s pretty watery, obviously because it’s natural. (Which means high water content.) Secondly, it leaves you sticky, which, let’s be honest, most lube does. Generally, Sylk is marketed at women, but I would recommend getting some for your penis, your boyfriend’s penis, bums, and well, vaginas too!
“Sylk Natural Personal Lubricant.” Available at most supermarkets and chemists.
Cost: between $12.99 and $19.99.