Ok Ladies and Gents, it’s time to talk about lube. Yes, LUBE. In my opinion lube, if using a good one and using it correctly, it can be a girl’s, and guy’s, best friend.
“But I don’t need lubeeeeeeeeee”, I hear you scream. Yeah well, here’s the thing; don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it because let’s face it, sometimes you need a little ‘kickstart’ down there to get things moving. OR sometimes you don’t even want to get moving and believe it or not, a magic squirt of lube might be just the thing you’re needing to get you in the mood.
One of the common complaints I hear about lube is that it’s all sticky and gluggy and, well, just plain gross. I agree, some lube definitely doesn’t feel or smell sexy. Some lube looks and feels like that old-school ‘Clag’ glue that I used in my primary school scrap-books. So, like any other personal care product, it’s all about finding a brand that suits you. I suggest a natural water-based lubricant. Water-based lube is safe to use with condoms and toys and won’t cause the latex to deteriorate.
Lube can definitely make sex more enjoyable, here's a couple of reasons why:
1. Vaginal Dryness.
This is COMMON (I can hear your sigh of relief ladies). Women lubricate at different rates and sexual responsiveness is highly individualized. Wetness is not always an indiciation of arousal or a persons ability to respond sexually.
There are many causes for vaginal dryness, some of the common ones being: pregnancy, breastfeeding and menopause. During these times there is a decrease in oestrogen levels in the body, which in turn causes your vagina to be ‘dryer’ than usual. Often after giving birth and getting back into the swing of sex it is common for a woman not to produce as much natural lube as she did prior to pregnancy. This is NORMAL and with the help of a fantastic lubricant you’ll be ready to go in no time!
Other causes of vaginal dryness can be emotional and psychological factors, such as lack of desire, depression and anxiety. In these cases I suggest talking about how you feel with your partner, a friend or a professional.
2. Anal Sex.
The anus and rectum are NOT self lubricating, so lubricants are extremely helpful in making anal sex all the more comfortable and enjoyable. Though the anus may feel like it has produced lube, this is in fact natural mucus and sweat and can lead to discomfort, irritation and infection if additional lube isn’t used. My tip: Use plenty of water-based lube and anal sex could well be your new favourite pastime!
3. Sex using Condoms
When using condoms it can dry you out and then it’s no fun for anyone. Lube prevents this from happening. This applies to both vaginal and anal sex with penises and toys. Don’t be afraid to grab the lube and apply, apply, apply. Men report it helps them maintain an erection and both men and women report that applying lube to their genitals can turn them from not being in the mood to wanting to shag all night!
All in all, lube can be a great addition to all types of sex!