We live in a culture that represses sexuality and teaches us that it’s not okay to be crazy, sexual, expressive beings. We live in a culture that teaches us to be quieter, calmer, politer, more contained … from a young age we are told to ‘act like a lady/gentleman’ and ‘keep your thoughts to yourself’. What a repressed f*cked up way to live!
I became increasingly aware of how repressed we are as a society when I recently joined a 6 week course called ‘Dancing Eros’. Dancing Eros explores and focuses on the authentic sexual and sensual embodiment of the four female erotic archetypes. I signed up wanting a sensual adventure and had heard that Dancing Eros would give me just that.
Throughout the Eros journey (and I’m only half way), I’ve had a huge realisation that I’ve been pushing down my wild woman and attempting to fit into the ‘nice girl’ category for a total of 34 years. On the outside I look like I don’t give a fuck what others think, but on the inside something in me says ‘Stop, that’s too much. You’ll scare people away. What if they think you’re over-the-top? What if they misinterpret you?’. And so I don’t fully express myself and I hold back with everything in life.
It’s got me thinking; how many women experience this on a daily basis? How many of us never learn about the Wild Woman archetype and stay stuck in judging the shit out of ourselves and not living however the hell we want to live? How many of us apologise for being 'too much'? I can guarantee most of us are doing this and we don’t even realise it. I’m here to tell you you don’t have to repress yourself anymore.
Stop giving a shit what people think about you and your crazy ways (easier said than done, right?) You may be reading this thinking ‘Shit, if I really expressed my wild side I’d have no friends/partners/lovers’… and I’m here to tell you that you know what, maybe some of your friends won’t cope because you’ll challenge them with your ‘too much’ and you'll challenge them to drop into their wild woman. But I can guarantee you will attract other friends/lovers/partners who love that side of you and who will support you in owning your wild woman and rise up with alongside you. Seriously, what have you go to lose?
Recommended reading - ‘Women Who Run With Wolves: Myths & Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype’ by Clarissa Pinkola Estes.