You Are Not Responsible For Your Partner's Orgasm

 
 

Many people assume that great sex should magically arrive on our doorstep (think knight-in-shining-armour/fairytale princess ready to jump into bed with us for hours)…but it doesn’t always turn out that way. In fact, most sexual relationships take a while to warm up and require time and presence if they are going to be pleasurable for BOTH parties. Getting to know your partner’s body, sexual responses, emotions and likes/dislikes is an art form…and one worth pursuing. 

When it comes to women, we are complex creatures and generally not as straightforward as men when it comes to sex. Women’s orgasmic patterns change and evolve throughout their lifetime and the fact is, orgasm isn’t always a requirement for pleasure and satisfaction. Hear that gentleman? Stop spending HOURS trying to make your woman reach the big ‘O’… if she tells you that she doesn’t need orgasm to enjoy sex, or that it will take her time (perhaps weeks or months), then listen to her and believe her. Respect her wishes.

Many of my female clients tell me of their frustration of men having to make them orgasm in order for them to feel like sex is ‘complete’. Gentleman, if this is you, it’s time to let go of that expectation and take the pressure off your woman (because if you don’t, the pressure will get too much, and your lover will fake orgasm just to pleasure you!) Women view sex as so much more than just the Big ‘O’ and remember your woman knows her body far better than you. If your lover wants to show you how to pleasure her - enjoy the experience, sit back, relax and let her reveal her secret pleasure spots. You may learn a thing or two, plus allowing your female partner to guide the experience will be a whole lot more satisfying for her in the long run.

Published in the Gold Coast Bulletin September, 2015