Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
What is ‘lesbian sex’? How do two women even have sex? I get these questions a fair bit and I actually get why it’s misunderstood; sex between two women isn’t spoken about enough, nor are we educated as children about it … so it’s no surprise that it’s a little tricky to understand. So today I’m here to impart some of my professional and personal knowledge and hot tips with you about beginners lesbian sex. This article is aimed for women who are curious, or wanting to have sex with women but don’t know where to begin.
Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
We all want to be enjoying ecstatic, orgasmic sex every day, right? “Yes!”, I hear you yell. Over the past few years I’ve written 100’s of blog posts about sex, and today I’ve picked my top 30 and put them all in the one place for your sensual reading pleasure.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Halie about sexual fluidity, her new love affair with another beautiful woman, the amazing sex education her Mother shared with her, and her 30 day no clitoral stimulation journey.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Mel about childbirth and the moment she entered womanhood, her sexual fantasy that involves her wife and another woman, her love of her boobs, and her wish to make time for more self-pleasure in her life.
Fantasy Files is a joint collaboration between Sexologist Juliet Allen and artist Tina Maria Elena. The project combines sexual fantasy, writing and art. Seven fantasies will be revealed over seven days, all written and submitted by real-life women from around the globe. The Fantasy Files project aims to empower women and men to embrace their sexual fantasy and desire and enjoy their sexuality in all it's senses.
"Later, I'm in the bathroom washing my hands when she comes out of a stall. She comes next to me and smiles, no words said. Whether it's the wine or the fantasy I've always had being so close to being fulfilled, I reach around the soft of her neck, pull her in and kiss her, deeply. She responds with her body and instantly we are wrapped around each other, kissing, feeling, moving in the stall she'd just minutes ago come out of. It isn't rushed or eager as I expected this may be. Rather, she's loving, has a look of desire, and I see a lot of myself and my wants in her. I think back to my partner, and how we've always talked about this, and I'm insanely turned on."
So, are you bisexual? Or are you more heterosexual than bisexual? Or what about that time you ‘turned lesbian?’, is that phase over now?
On a weekly basis I’m asked different versions of the above questions about my sexuality. And rightly so, people are naturally curious about sexuality and love to use labels to define human beings, thus placing us in boxes so that we can better understand each other. But what if labels were taken out of the equation, and we began to identify with being purely sexual?
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Shelley about sleeping with another girl at age 8, masturbation as a daily ritual, her sexual fantasies, and her career as a life model.
Why is it that people are hung up on the LGBTIQ labels? My belief is that labels box us into categories… which in turn gives the people around us some sort of understanding about who we are and where we ‘fit’ in. I don’t like the concept of labels, my wish is that we respect each other as humans and our sexuality doesn’t have to come into the equation if we are anything other than ‘straight’. But hey, labels are a huge part of our world, so what does that mean if we don’t seem to fit into any specific LGBTIQ category?
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Lauren about sexuality as sacred dance, seeing vulnerability as power, self-pleasure, and exploring sex with other women.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I spoke to Lia-Belle about her struggle with body image, what inspires her to make love, her relationship with her wife, clean white sheets and her amazing reoccurring sexual fantasy.
I’ve been in a committed relationship with my beautiful fiancé for 4 years. When we met and began dating I never expected us to one-day be engaged to marry…and yet here I am, planning a lifetime together with another woman.
From the outside, our relationship appears to be a magical gay fairytale: two beautiful women fall in love and live happily-ever-after with daughter and dog. In reality, it’s not always that straight-forward, in fact our relationship goes through major ups and downs, just like any other couple.
On the agenda over the last week has been the recent change in legislation in the U.S., whereby they became the 21st country to legalise same-sex marriage nationwide. Congratulations and about time too… now it’s time for Tony Abbott and the rest of our homophobic citizens to harden up and put an end to the appalling discrimination and homophobia that is alive and well in Australia.
Why is it that so many men (and women) feel like it’s ok to avoid using condoms? Listen up people, the rates of STI’s and HIV are rapidly rising in Australia, and yet many of us still think it’s OK to waltz around the bedroom naked without even the thought of using protection.
I’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
Holistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff?
“Where can I find great porn?” - I get this question all the time from friends and female clients and the truth is, I’ve never really had the perfect site to point people to. Firstly, we all get off on different stuff, so it’s hard for me to assume that just because I like a certain type of porn, other people will like it too. Secondly, sifting through millions of porn sites in order to find a good one is goddamn time consuming and, after a while, it all looks (and sounds) the same.
Most mainstream porn is often produced by men, for men. Heterosexual porn is very much focused on pleasuring the male, and often gives a distorted view of sexuality, intimacy and human relations. Many women I speak with ask for porn recommendations that are suited more for the female gaze… porn that’s all about pleasuring the female and features real-life women enjoying pleasurable and realistic intimacy and sex.
Holy hell I absolutely L O V E D this movie. Looking for a Sunday flick? Watch Blue Is The Warmest Colour. It's a love story between two beautiful women and (I may be a little bias), it's not just powerful & heart-felt, but it's god damn sexy.
Giving oral sex to a woman is an art form. It’s an art form that requires practice as it seems there are very few people who get it right (and enjoy it) the first time. Before I get into the nitty gritty of how to pleasure a woman with your mouth, it’s important to first acknowledge the elephant in the room; some people hate giving oral sex, and that’s ok. I do hope that for those of you who don’t enjoy the art of licking and kissing a woman’s pussy that this article may inspire you to think again, and perhaps open your mind to the possibility that going down on a woman can be as pleasurable for you as it is for the woman herself.
It seems, for most of us, that sex education in high school was either mediocre, or non-existent. For me, it was very mediocre. It consisted of an hour in a ‘Sex Education' van in the back of the school yard learning about how to put a condom on a banana.
These days, nothing much has changed; today’s youth are learning most of their sex education via friends, porn and online resources. As a result, many teens are moving into adulthood sexually misinformed, often experiencing less than satisfactory sex with themselves and others. I myself wish my sex education was more holistic; filled with the juicy fun stuff, with a bit of serious stuff thrown in for good measure.
Photographer iO Tillett Wright grew up between genders and sexualities. She's shot 2,000 people who consider themselves somewhere on the LBGTQ spectrum and asked many: can they assign a percentage to how gay or straight they are? Most people consider themselves to exist in the grey areas of sexuality, which presents a real problem when it comes to discrimination. Because where do you draw the line? (Filmed at TEDxWomen.)
As a young woman I experimented with my sexuality freely, openly and with confidence. When reflecting on my first sexual experience it was with a girl, we were both 14 years old.
Entering womanhood I found myself enjoying sex with both men and women, but mostly men. I was lucky enough to fall in love with more than one man during my twenties and at age 24 I was blessed with becoming a Mum to my beautiful daughter. I was in a loving relationship and happy and yet I knew deep down that I still had more to experience, more to explore.