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Introducing the Big-O Guide: a collection of articles, podcasts, and Pleasure School lessons curated by Juliet.
As a sexologist and relationship coach, I'm often asked about masturbation in relationships, and I've noticed there's a lot of confusion and stigma around this topic. So let’s explore this!
Listen & Learn! And then go practice 😉 You can find all these episodes on my website, or listen on iTunes, Spotify & Soundcloud.
The Self-Pleasure Guide is a collection of journal articles, podcast episodes and Pleasure School lessons that Juliet has written and recorded over the past years. This collection has been put together for those of us who wish to take the opportunity in isolation to learn more about masturbation. Also, it’s Masturbation Month, let’s celebrate!
At some stage in our lives we will all encounter a sex life that seems to have taken a turn for the worse. Long term relationships always go through their ups and downs and, more often than not, couples find themselves bored and uninspired by their sex life. It’s time to shake things up and add some spice to your life! Here are 5 realistic ways that you can spice up your sex life today:
These days it’s easy to get caught up in the ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ of orgasm and pleasure. There is so much advice flying about on the internet that both women and men are often left wondering how the hell they can best please themselves and their partners. Female orgasm in particular is portrayed as a mysterious and personal experience and there are definitely some common orgasm myths that need to be debunked.
It seems there are a few damaging myths surrounding masturbation that need to be cleared up. The first myth is ‘If my partner masturbates, it means our sex life is inadequate’ and the second myth is ‘Masturbating means I won’t want sex with my partner because I will be ‘orgasmed out’.’ News flash; both of these myths are not true, in fact masturbation is a healthy and normal part of life and is a positive addition to any romantic relationship.
Many clients come to me and report that sex is boring … it’s quick and very orgasm focussed and there’s something missing. Often my clients can’t pinpoint what is missing, but they know that there must be more to sex than what they’re experiencing. That something is the connection and intimacy that they unconsciously desire with their partner/lover and they don't know it's missing because they've never experienced it before.
Earlier this month I gifted myself a brand new Rose Quartz pleasure wand (aka dildo). Yes, you heard right, I bought an actual rose quartz crystal that’s been carved into a beautiful wand/cock/phallic-like shape and made specifically to insert inside the vagina for ultimate pleasure.
In my opinion, amazing sex can always feel even more amazing when you're met with an amazing playlist to fuck to. So, here's my top three playlists, ripe and ready for Summer.
Mutual masturbation is when two (or more) people masturbate in each other’s presence. Perhaps you are both positioned on opposite sides of the room, or you’re alongside each other kissing, or you’re on opposite sides of the world, watching and listening via a screen. It doesn’t matter how you choose to do it, what matters is that you experience and embrace mutual masturbation as a regular practice with your lover/s.
A rose quartz crystal dildo in my pussy, WTF? Yep, that’s what I thought when I first heard of crystal dildos, so I get it if you’re thinking this is yet another airy fairy hippy gimmick. Luckily, it’s not. In fact ever since using my first rose quartz Chakrubs dildo a few months ago, I’ve never looked back. So, what’s the big deal? Why am I pushing crystal dildos all-of-a-sudden? Well, let me enlighten you with a few simple facts about sex toys and vaginas.
The Juliet Pleasure Wand is designed to connect you to your true sexual essence. This detailed self pleasure guide gives ideas and rituals for those who are ready to deepen their connection to their sexual energy and expand their orgasmic potential.
The Juliet Pleasure Wand is designed to connect you to your true sexual essence. This detailed video gives you guidance on how to choose the right crystal pleasure wand for you and you pleasure potential.
Lately I’ve been feeling like less sex and intimacy than usual, which bothers me. What bothers me more is that instead of taking ownership of my low libido, I realised I’ve been blaming my partner and playing the victim. Victim mentality is dangerous - victim mentality is when a person tends to regard him or herself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave like it were the case—even in the absence of clear evidence.
I’ve always been a huge fan of the Quick F*ck. But hey, when you don’t have nobody to f*ck, or you simply can’t be assed engaging with another human being, then a quick masturbation session always seems to hit the spot.
I’m a big fan of self-pleasure; I was fortunate enough to discover my ‘pleasure spot’ at a young age and haven’t looked back since. I feel truly blessed that masturbation feels natural and that making myself cum has always been relatively easy.
Over the years though, I have discovered many women who have had a rough trot with masturbation; stories of shame and guilt (often somewhat associated with religion, surprise surprise), of the inability to reach orgasm through self-pleasure and women who just don’t feel the desire to pleasure themselves at all. All of the above feelings are completely normal and, if they resonate with you, believe me; you are not alone.
On the top of my new year goals list is ‘read more’…so I’ve done some research and chosen five books about hot sex and healthy relationships that I’m going to tick off my reading list in the first half of 2016.
It’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
These days it’s easy to get caught up in the daily-grind called ‘life’ and before we know it, self-love and pleasure seem to be placed on the back burner. Before long we begin to feel frustrated and annoyed (often blaming our lovers) for the lack of pleasure and satisfaction we feel in our everyday life. With this in mind, here are 3 tips for better self-loving:
Holistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff?
The orgasm gap is a concept among sex researchers that explains the unequal distribution of orgasms between women and men. According to a recent American survey, men experience orgasm up to three times more often than women. When stats like these hit the media there’s always a lot of discussion about how to close the orgasm gap. But what if the gap doesn’t need to be ‘closed’? What if we accept that the orgasmic patterns of women and men shouldn’t be compared? All genders experience pleasure in different and unique ways and for a lot of people, orgasm isn’t always a necessary ingredient for great sex.
It can be as simple as closing one’s eyes, delving into fantasy and reaching orgasm within seconds. Other times it can be a deeply spiritual practice that includes conscious breath work and a sacred sexual ritual. Neither way is right or wrong, what matters is that you enjoy the experience and feel absolutely amazing while you’re doing it.
Pleasuring your partner and making them cum is often a satisfying, fulfilling and powerful experience. Knowing that they enjoy how you touch them and turn them is often easy and comfortable. Giving pleasure to another is a beautiful part of life.
But what if you're always giving and deep down you want to learn how to receive pleasure?
What if you're not feeling fullfilled with your own pleasure and ability to reach orgasm?
Today, I want to chat about something that might sound a bit unconventional, but hear me out… the benefits of taking time OFF sex!