We all want to be experiencing great sex, right? Most of us dream of experiencing lots of fun, healthy, connected, ecstatic sex, preferably on a daily basis … unfortunately though, most of us aren’t experiencing sex this way. One of the big reasons for this is most likely because the majority of us have never been educated about why communication is so important.
It’s no surprise that both the topic of sex and money still hold so much taboo and are surrounded with a whole heap of stigma and shame that gets in the way of us giving ourselves PERMISSION to experience lots of BOTH in our life. My personal belief is that the real ‘TANTRIC WAY’ embraces it ALL - abundant sex AND abundant cash flow. And so, living a ‘Tantric life’ is about breaking through the shame, guilt and unworthiness associated with sex and money, and stepping into a life that creates abundance on all levels! Because let’s face it, abundant money and conscious sex has the potential to bring an abundance of freedom and joy.
As women, when we allow ourselves to be penetrated by another, we open our pussy and womb space (and quite possibly mouth and ass) up to the consciousness of our chosen lover. We take them into us physically and, we take them into us energetically. We absorb their consciousness into our entire being. Often when this happens we open ourselves up to all sorts of emotions and feelings that impact us on a deep level in both positive and negative ways.
Over the past few months I have supercharged my manifesting skills in life by exploring and creating with sex magic. Sex magic, put simply, is using the power of our sexual and orgasmic energy to manifest exactly what we want in life. Sex magic can be practiced anytime, anywhere. When we allow ourselves to tap into the power of manifesting during self-pleasure, or love-making with a lover/beloved, we are tapping into the power of our life force energy and creating from a space of pure consciousness and love.
The sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.
It seems there are a lot of myths surrounding the topic of anal sex; it’s painful, men want it more than us women, women who love it are dirty. The list goes on and on, which leads to a misconception that the only people who love it are men having sex with men, and this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Anal sex is still somewhat of a taboo topic in mainstream conversation and, as far as I’m concerned, it’s not talked about enough. Which brings me to 5 anal sex myths (de-bunked):
Yesterday was Mother’s day and it prompted me to think about life as a parent and the challenges we face juggling parenthood, work life, relationship life, and the all-important sex life. “What sex life?!”, I hear some of you sigh. Yeah well, I totally get it … parenting is FULL ON, kids can be demanding, and it’s super common for our sex lives to suffer as a result.
Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
We all want to be enjoying ecstatic, orgasmic sex every day, right? “Yes!”, I hear you yell. Over the past few years I’ve written 100’s of blog posts about sex, and today I’ve picked my top 30 and put them all in the one place for your sensual reading pleasure.
As a Sexologist, sex-enthusiast and mother, I offer you the following advice: talk to your kids about sex, masturbation, intimacy & sexual energy from a very young age. And another piece of advice … if you’re reading this and cringing, I suggest you get to a a good sex therapist/coach and dive deep into sorting out the ‘stuff’ that holds you back from having these conversations … because trust me, if you’re not comfortable talking about sex, then your kids won’t be either … and so the cycle will continue through the generations.
Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
It’s 2017 and the beginning of a fresh new year … with this in mind there’s no better time than now to put some fresh new items on your bucket list, beginning with new places to enjoy sex. Here’s 6 locations I recommend you explore in 2017.
Let’s be honest, some women just do not enjoy giving blow jobs, full stop. And you know what, that’s ok, because worshipping co*k isn’t every woman’s cup of tea, so to speak. But then there’s the women who think they don’t enjoy it, but actually just don’t really know what to do … and so they’re not feeling confident with their blow job skills. Dear women who don’t love giving blow jobs, this article is for you.
In today’s media there’s always so much emphasis placed on ecstatic orgasm, mind-blowing sex toys, crazy love-making positions and ways to pleasure our lovers that will drive them crazy … and that’s all well and good, but why isn’t lube being getting the wrap it deserves as a handy accompaniment to all these wild sexual practices?
I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding ‘period sex’ that I‘m ready to bust. Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing men’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation. Seriously, it’s time to open up men (and women) to the possibility that there’s SO much more to ‘period sex’ than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. And gentleman, seriously, you need to get over your period blood phobia and man up.
Kissing isn’t always about smacking your lips together and sharing saliva … no, there is so much more to kissing than that. So, what is it that makes for an exquisite kiss between two lovers? Is it the actual technique? Is it the energy exchange? Is it fast & passionate, or slow and lingering … or somewhere in-between?
This year I pushed my boundaries in all ways possible; I surrounded myself with powerful, inspiring leaders in the area of sexuality & Tantra, I attended a myriad of workshops and events so that I could expand myself both personally and professionally, and I feel I truly experienced ecstasy and pleasure like never before. There were extreme highs, and there were extreme lows. There was extreme pain, and extreme pleasure. All-in-all I believe this year has been by far one of the best in my life (and that’s a BIG call, ‘cos my life has been pretty damn good).
Are you ready to take sex and intimacy to a whole new level? Do you feel like there’s something missing from your existing sex life? Or perhaps you’re craving a deeper and more powerful level of connection with your lover but can’t quite seem to reach it? Enter Tantric Sex. A conscious way of fucking that gives sex a whole new level of deliciousness and meaning.
Mutual masturbation is when two (or more) people masturbate in each other’s presence. Perhaps you are both positioned on opposite sides of the room, or you’re alongside each other kissing, or you’re on opposite sides of the world, watching and listening via a screen. It doesn’t matter how you choose to do it, what matters is that you experience and embrace mutual masturbation as a regular practice with your lover/s.
Is it possible to ‘make love’ with someone when you sleep with them for the first time? Or make love to them even when you're not actually 'in love' with them? Yes. Yes. Yes. Often we make the mistake of assuming that 'making love' is something that’s only for people who are 'in love'. But this is far from the truth. When we are both connected at our three centres - our sex centre, our heart centre & our consciousness - sex becomes a beautiful exchange of energy, love and magical union. Sex becomes love in a physical and spiritual form.
Recently I was reminded that when a man fucks a woman, he enters her not just with his cock, but with his entire consciousness. Energetically we receive every man we fuck into every cell in our body … we receive their vibration into our heart and consciousness, and take on whatever is going on for that man in that moment in his life. Urggggggggg … reality check!
I’ve always been very vocal when making love and f*cking. No one taught me to be vocal, I just naturally allow sound to flow during sex, especially when I climax. When I was younger I thought every woman used sound (moaning, screaming, talking, whispering) to amplify her sexual experience … until I made love to a woman who was very quiet and controlled with her vocals … this experience gave me an insight into how unique our sexual experiences are, and so I wondered, 'is orgasm and sex more powerful if sound is used?'.
Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it. So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience.
For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
It’s the age old question - ‘Should we have sex when we are bleeding?’. Well I say yes … if you want to that is. Truth is, like any other sexual activity, sex while menstruating is a personal preference. Some of us love it, some don’t. The bottom line is that we need to respect and love each other whether we do or don’t enjoy it.
I've been listening to a ton of music recently and it's been super powerful in that just by listening to slow sexual music I am tapping into my sex, desire and orgasm deeper than ever. So, with that in mind, I have put together a Slow Sex Playlist, specifically for the lovers out there who are looking to make love or fuck to new tunes.
During sex, the body's energy may become stagnant, heavy, or stuck. Biting, slapping and pinching can be used to stimulate energy in the nervous system and rouse a listless or sluggish body into more energetic ecstasy. Sometimes a little bit of pain, skilfully and lovingly administered, can greatly increase pleasure. Use this means freely, with real love and careful sensitivity. These techniques are simply aspects of creative sexual loving and should be used equally by men and women.
We live in a culture that represses sexuality and teaches us that it’s not okay to be crazy, sexual, expressive beings. We live in a culture that teaches us to be quieter, calmer, politer, more contained … from a young age we are told to ‘act like a lady/gentleman’ and ‘keep your thoughts to yourself’. What a repressed f*cked up way to live!