Many, many couples make the mistake of committing to someone because their heart centre says YES, but their sex centre was always NO. Or, their sex centre was YES, so the sex was fucking great, but deep down their heart and intuition always felt off. There’s so many different combinations of the YES’S and NO’S, but I find this process very handy when choosing who we interact with sexually and who we enter into committed relationships with.
The sacred art of pussy worship, is it even a thing? Yes, yes it is. And if you’re new to the idea of pussy worship then sit tight, because you’re about to learn a thing or two about what it really means to truly love a woman in her entirety. Pussy, Yoni, Vagina, Vulva, Cunt, Kitty, Flower … to be honest it really doesn’t matter what we call it, what matters is that we ALL honour and worship every woman’s pussy like a fucking temple. A temple that demands deep reverence, love and full respect. The gift of the sacred art of pussy worship is that the woman who is receiving can do just that; surrender to the man (or woman) who is worshipping them and receive the gift of presence and pleasure that unfolds.
As women, when we allow ourselves to be penetrated by another, we open our pussy and womb space (and quite possibly mouth and ass) up to the consciousness of our chosen lover. We take them into us physically and, we take them into us energetically. We absorb their consciousness into our entire being. Often when this happens we open ourselves up to all sorts of emotions and feelings that impact us on a deep level in both positive and negative ways.
Over the past few months I have supercharged my manifesting skills in life by exploring and creating with sex magic. Sex magic, put simply, is using the power of our sexual and orgasmic energy to manifest exactly what we want in life. Sex magic can be practiced anytime, anywhere. When we allow ourselves to tap into the power of manifesting during self-pleasure, or love-making with a lover/beloved, we are tapping into the power of our life force energy and creating from a space of pure consciousness and love.
Education and ongoing growth is the key to living a life full of amazing sex, intimacy and connection with ourself and with others. Aside from my own book, Ecstatic Sex & Deep Intimacy, I recommend these following books as resources that have changed my life and expanded my own experience sex, orgasm and love.
Join me and others in supporting the elevation of sensuality, consciousness, embodiment, sexuality, intimacy, heart-fullness, art, beauty & life-force energy! In February 2018 I am facilitating workshops at the SPIRIT OF INTIMACY in Goa, India.
Today I'm feeling to talk about vulnerability and sharing our truth as individuals. I'm sharing about this because it's something that I'm exploring deeply within myself and it keeps showing up in my life as a challenge. You see, I share a lot of myself on social media and with my friends, but often when it comes to intimate relationships, I've noticed I hold back a little ... it's like I don't want to be 'too much' - too opinionated, too sexual, too business-focussed, too spiritual, too loving, too alternative, too mainstream, too crazy, too horny, too hippy ... fucking hell, it's crazy how we can judge ourselves and keep ourselves small just to please others.
The sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.
She is a woman, who, through ritual or psychological development, has come to know the spiritual side of her sexuality, her true eroticism, and lives this out according to her individual circumstances. The Sacred Slut resides within us all, both women and men - she’s not ashamed of her sexuality, she embraces it all and owns that part of herself.
Creating a safe and sacred space for ourselves is the first step to experiencing solo and coupled Tantric sex. Personally, I have always been aware of how big an impact my surroundings have on my sensuality and sexuality, and so I always ensure my entire home feels like a sanctuary.
Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
We all want to be enjoying ecstatic, orgasmic sex every day, right? “Yes!”, I hear you yell. Over the past few years I’ve written 100’s of blog posts about sex, and today I’ve picked my top 30 and put them all in the one place for your sensual reading pleasure.
Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
Are you a lady in waiting attracting the prince whose looking good and going nowhere? Or are you a Queen ready for a King?
The lady in waiting can have a little bit of power by sleeping with a man and enchanting him with her sexuality. She can also have a little bit of power by meeting a man's desires, expectations and ideas of how his ideal woman should behave.
But she doesn't have legitimate power, because she is giving 80 per cent and he is only giving 20 per cent.
This year I pushed my boundaries in all ways possible; I surrounded myself with powerful, inspiring leaders in the area of sexuality & Tantra, I attended a myriad of workshops and events so that I could expand myself both personally and professionally, and I feel I truly experienced ecstasy and pleasure like never before. There were extreme highs, and there were extreme lows. There was extreme pain, and extreme pleasure. All-in-all I believe this year has been by far one of the best in my life (and that’s a BIG call, ‘cos my life has been pretty damn good).
Are you ready to take sex and intimacy to a whole new level? Do you feel like there’s something missing from your existing sex life? Or perhaps you’re craving a deeper and more powerful level of connection with your lover but can’t quite seem to reach it? Enter Tantric Sex. A conscious way of fucking that gives sex a whole new level of deliciousness and meaning.
Ladies, it’s time to honour our vagina’s and treat them like the divine and exquisite temple that they are, allowing only amazing energy and love to enter our sacred space. All too often we as a women don’t give our pussy the love that it needs and deserves. When we neglect our pussy it overflows into us not enjoying our sexuality in it’s fullness, and we definitely don’t reap the full benefits and pleasure of sex and love-making with others.
Is it possible to ‘make love’ with someone when you sleep with them for the first time? Or make love to them even when you're not actually 'in love' with them? Yes. Yes. Yes. Often we make the mistake of assuming that 'making love' is something that’s only for people who are 'in love'. But this is far from the truth. When we are both connected at our three centres - our sex centre, our heart centre & our consciousness - sex becomes a beautiful exchange of energy, love and magical union. Sex becomes love in a physical and spiritual form.
Recently I was reminded that when a man fucks a woman, he enters her not just with his cock, but with his entire consciousness. Energetically we receive every man we fuck into every cell in our body … we receive their vibration into our heart and consciousness, and take on whatever is going on for that man in that moment in his life. Urggggggggg … reality check!
For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Monica about making love as a spiritual practice, her polyamorous relationship, natural childbirth as a sexual experience, and what she looks for in her lovers.
Earlier this month I gifted myself a brand new Rose Quartz pleasure wand (aka dildo). Yes, you heard right, I bought an actual rose quartz crystal that’s been carved into a beautiful wand/cock/phallic-like shape and made specifically to insert inside the vagina for ultimate pleasure.
Over 8 days in Bali we journeyed deep into Kundalini whilst exploring our core wounds, our unconscious shadows, our inner and outer union with the divine masculine and feminine, our truth, our animal, our sexuality, our sensuality, our heart, and our consciousness. In other words, we all faced our shit head on, we went deep into dark places and came out into the light.
Tantra is choosing with awareness what gives us JOY. Kundalini Tantra has given me a remembering of who I am, a remembering of my power, of my wholeness, of my sex, and of the fact that I am, and always will be LOVE.
Kundalini Tantra is, in a nutshell, a practice that involves integrating and understanding both the masculine and feminine energy within us all (masculine and feminine qualities are within both female and male bodies), and gives us the magical skill of being able to circulate the kundalini energy within our body to become lighter, deeper and freer lovers and human beings. I’m a big fan of anything that brings freedom and connectedness into my life and relationships, and this workshop did just that (and so much more).
As a sexologist, I have a bookcase full of sex-related books that I regularly re-read for inspiration and education. Reading is a fantastic way to self-educate, which is essential if you want a plentiful and pleasurable sex life. If you’re in a relationship, reading about sex can open up a healthy discussion about sex with your partner, and is a sure fire way to spice up your sex life. If you’re single, there is no better time than now to begin empowering yourself as a sexual being. Reading about sex is bound to attract amazing sexual experiences into your life, and there’s nothing better than a well educated and confident lover!
The following is a list of 4 books that have something for everyone. I can almost guarantee that if you read them you will learn something new and feel inspired to live a life full of amazing and plentiful sex.
When we choose to be in romantic relationship with another human, we choose to bare our soul and open our heart… all the while knowing that it may not work, it may not be the ‘forever fairytale’ we heard of as children, and it may, in the end, break our fu*cking heart to tiny little pieces. Yet knowing all this, we still enter into relationship… because there’s nothing quite like love and sex and all the fun stuff that relationship entails.
What I’ve discovered about me over the past few months is that I’ve been really great at being the ‘strong’ woman. From a very young age I remember being proud of the fact that I was ‘independent’. This got me through my parent’s divorce, allowed me to travel the world alone at age 17, carried me through the break down of my relationship with my daughter’s father, and then got me through the ongoing homophobia I experienced when I came out as Bisexual and entered into a relationship with a woman.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I spoke to Sally about her rituals for self-love, her mother's influence on her view of sex, her relationship with her partner Mitch Gobel and her love of essential oils and swimming in the sea.