4 Reasons Why You Don’t Have A Girlfriend


Having a girlfriend isn’t for everyone, but if it’s something you’re looking for (and are yet to find), here are 3 reasons why it may not have happened for you:

#1 You’re waiting for the perfect woman

News flash: nobody is perfect. Start focussing on what she does have, instead of focusing on what she doesn’t. All too often men and women ‘wait’ for that perfect someone, and in the mean time they miss out on dating amazing people. Now these amazing people may not be your ‘forever’, but at least you will get some dating practice and gain insight into what qualities you are/are not looking for in your ideal partner.

#2 The only time you meet women is when you’re drunk

Listen up buddy, drunk is not cool. It may be cool when you’re 18 at schoolies, but it gets old and most women do not find drunk men/women attractive. You have the potential to be an amazing lover and connect with an amazing woman, but this is NOT going to happen drunk at a bar. If you’re looking for a seriously amazing connection and commitment, less drinking is on the cards.

#3 You’re not taking her out

Sitting at home complaining about being single is going to get you nowhere! You’ve got to pluck up the courage to ask women out (refer to #1 if you haven’t found Miss Perfect). As humans, our worst fear is getting rejected. I know what it’s like, and it’s not fun. But you can’t let it stop you from being brave and asking women out on dates. 

#4 You’re making it all about YOU

Stop talking about yourself and start taking an interest in the women you are dating. There is nothing worse than going on a date with someone who rambles on about themselves the whole time. Women appreciate being listened to and having a man/woman be present is a huge turn on. Make it all about her and she won’t forget you.

Published in the Gold Coast Bulletin November, 2015