Women On Top 001: Chelsea Elayne

Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. I interviewed Chelsea about entering womanhood, sex dreams & masturbation.


Name: Chelsea

Age: 23

Sexual Orientation: I think just plain sexual. I still don't know what 'box' I fall into. I'm figuring it out.

Occupation: Account Coordinator (advertising)

What was the message your mother gave you about sex as a little girl? 

She never really did. The only time we talked about it was when she suggested I go on birth control in the beginning of what was to become a long-term relationship.

Can you identify a moment when you feel you officially entered womanhood? 

Honestly, I feel like that moment was very recently, within the past 3 years. I think when I graduated college and left that safe space I really came into myself. I've always been independent, but not until ending my long-term relationship did I understand 'womanhood', and more importantly sisterhood. To me, entering womanhood was more about supporting and protecting other women than it was a personal becoming.

How important do you believe it is to embrace your sexuality as a woman? 

I hate the word 'so', but SO important! Not only embracing your sexuality, but having ownership over your sexuality. 

How important is self-pleasure to you?

Very important. There's that overused quote, about loving yourself before being able to love someone else, and it's totally true, even in a pleasure sense. Having that control - being able to feel pleasure on your own. It's not about 'getting off', it's about exploring the fucking amazing things your body can do and feel. 

What are three things you love about your body (that perhaps you've struggled with in the past)?

I remember being so self-conscious about having small boobs, and I look back and laugh! That's so silly! I love them now. Two other things I love are my butt and my waist.

What are three things you look for in a lover? 

A sense of humour, compassion and intelligence.

What inspires you to make love and enjoy sex (either alone, or with a partner)? 

I think the only time I don't enjoy or want to have sex is when I'm upset or sad. When I'm happy I'm horny! That sounds like a tag line.

Do you have any particular women in your life who inspire you to be a sexually empowered woman?

One of my best friends, Chanel.

Do you have any reoccurring sexual fantasies? 

All my sex dreams are always exclusively sex with women. I've never had a sex dream with a man.

What rituals do you have for self-care and self-love? 

I take baths (with epsom salts and coconut oil)! I eat well and ride my bike. I am so lucky because I live on the beach, so I take a lot of walks. I make sure I talk to my mum at least every few days. I splurge on Aesop hand cream and $16 cocktails on payday. I pet a lot of dogs.

Find Chelsea on Instagram // @chelseaelayne