3 Techniques To Evolve Your Lovemaking

 
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Lovemaking is a lifelong journey that brings with it many ups and downs. As a sexologist, my job is to make sure my readers and clients are always learning more about sex and feeling empowered to experience great sex throughout their lifetime. Learning new techniques is all part of the quest for deeper intimacy and powerful sex, which brings me to three lovemaking techniques that I believe will enrich your journey and heighten your next sexual encounter:

1. Edging Orgasm

‘Edging an orgasm’ can be done with a partner, or alone. This is an ancient sacred practice that is designed to delay pleasure and heighten your experience of orgasm. Begin by bringing both yourself, and your partner, to the edge of orgasm (but not over the threshold). Stop all movement and focus on your breathing. Take a breath in and squeeze your genital muscles. Notice the heightened energy in your body. When the time is right (but don’t rush) let go, and bring yourself to the brink of orgasm again, this time releasing and letting go. This is a great exercise to practice alone, especially if you reach orgasm quickly, or want to prolong lovemaking with your partner.

2. Erotic Talk

There’s nothing sexier than a partner who knows how to turn you on with words. Often simply talking about sex is enough to get you in the mood and before you know it words turn into actions and lovemaking has begun. Often there is a lot of pressure to ‘talk dirty’. ‘Talking dirty’ doesn’t always need to be taken literally, often just speaking about what you want your partner to do next can be enough of a turn on. It’s always important to respect yourself and your partner - never do or say things that make you, or them, feel uncomfortable.

3. Sensual Massage

A sensual massage is a great way to connect with your partner and get to know their body. Often a good lover is someone who knows how to touch, alongside being present and noticing their partner’s ‘hot spots’. Some massage sessions may progress into sex, others may not. If you are experiencing a lack of sex within your relationship, sensual massage may be a good place to begin enjoying intimacy again. If sensual massage is something you want to try, I recommend using organic coconut oil - coconut oil is good for you both internally and externally…and it’s edible.

This article was published in Juliet's regular Saturday column in the Gold Coast Bulletin 19th April 2015

Juliet Allen