How To Be Sensual, Without Being Sexual


Lately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.


There is nothing more powerful than a kiss and the most important kisses are the kisses that say a thousand words between two lovers. Yes, kissing often leads to sex, but they don’t always have to.  Kissing is a gentle and sensual way of saying hello and goodbye, of saying ‘I love you’, of saying ‘I’m here for you’. Waking up and falling asleep to a kiss from a lover is a not-to-be-missed moment in the day of many. Making the effort to share a kiss, regardless of how stressful or busy life is, is essential in healthy and long-lasting relationships.


I can honestly say that I enjoy nothing more than getting into bed at any time of the day and cuddling my lover. Cuddles ‘on tap’ is one of life’s simplest pleasures and there is nothing more sensual or loving than being held all night by the person you love. Yes, one-night-stands can be fun, but nothing beats the feeling of a sensual and loving cuddle on the couch at the end of a big day.

Eye Contact

The ability to look into another’s eyes and hold their gaze shows that you are comfortable enough in your own skin to be able to share that moment with another person. Intense eye contact often leaves us feeling vulnerable but it’s a powerful way to connect with your lover in a non-physical way. Being able to look into the eyes of your lover is a skill that requires courage and presence and it shows that you have a vested interest in what they are saying (or not saying) in that moment. 

Holding Hands

Holding hands is how we stay subtly connected throughout our day. It may be as simple as sitting on the couch and holding hands, or standing in line at the bank. The simplest of touch between two people is a powerful and simple way to show affection and love. 

This article was published on the We-Vibe Blog in 2015.