Podcast Episode 211: Rapid Fire Q&A - Anal Play, Self-Pleasure & Mismatched Desire
I’m back with a rapid fire Q&A, riffing on questions from the women inside SexLife™. These are my short and sweet, bite-sized answers to the questions you’ve been asking.
In this episode, I’m answering five: how to connect to pleasure during anal massage (trust, surrender, lots of warm-up and lots of lube), how to stop holding yourself back from saying what you desire in the moment, what to do when your partner feels uncomfortable about you self-pleasuring, how to handle crushes when you’re in a loving long-term relationship, and how to navigate lower desire when you feel obliged to have sex and the guilt that creates.
So many of these come down to the same foundation - safety, respect, love, and being with a lover you truly trust. Self-pleasure isn’t a threat to your relationship, it’s how you fill your own cup and bring a fuller version of yourself to your partner. And crushes are worth getting curious about - usually they’re pointing to something you’re not receiving in your relationship, or something you admire in that person that you actually want more of in yourself.
These questions came from the women inside SexLife™, and it’s exactly the kind of honest, curious conversation that happens in there every day. If you’ve been on the fence, come step inside and join us. It’s where we go deeper together, support each other, and where you get access to the community, my monthly masterclasses, and a growing library of resources.
Find out more at juliet-allen.com and @juliet_allen
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*Please read shipping and returns policy HERE before placing your order. Please note, any customs and/or import tax payable on goods when they arrive at the destination are the responsibility of the customer. All sales are final.
Disclaimer (for U.S. Customers):
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Please note: All pricing on this website is in US Dollars.