Posts tagged masturbation
Self-Pleasure 101

I’m a big fan of self-pleasure; I was fortunate enough to discover my ‘pleasure spot’ at a young age and haven’t looked back since. I feel truly blessed that masturbation feels natural and that making myself cum has always been relatively easy.

Over the years though, I have discovered many women who have had a rough trot with masturbation; stories of shame and guilt (often somewhat associated with religion, surprise surprise), of the inability to reach orgasm through self-pleasure and women who just don’t feel the desire to pleasure themselves at all. All of the above feelings are completely normal and, if they resonate with you, believe me; you are not alone.

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Let's Talk About Lube

Ok Ladies and Gents, it’s time to talk about lube.  Yes, LUBE.  In my opinion lube, if using a good one and using it correctly, it can be a girl’s, and guy’s, best friend.

But I don’t need lubeeeeeeeeee”, I hear you scream.  Yeah well, here’s the thing; don’t knock it ‘til you’ve tried it because let’s face it, sometimes you need a little ‘kickstart’ down there to get things moving.  OR sometimes you don’t even want to get moving and believe it or not, a magic squirt of lube might be just the thing you’re needing to get you in the mood.

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5 Realistic Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life

At some stage in our lives we will all encounter a sex life that seems to have taken a turn for the worse. Long term relationships always go through their ups and downs and, more often than not, couples find themselves bored and uninspired by their sex life. It’s time to shake things up and add some spice to your life! Here are 5 realistic ways that you can spice up your sex life today:

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Self Pleasure, Forever

These days it’s easy to get caught up in the daily-grind called ‘life’ and before we know it, self-love and pleasure seem to be placed on the back burner. Before long we begin to feel frustrated and annoyed (often blaming our lovers) for the lack of pleasure and satisfaction we feel in our everyday life. With this in mind, here are 3 tips for better self-loving:

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3 Orgasm Myths {De-Bunked}

These days it’s easy to get caught up in the ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ of orgasm and pleasure. There is so much advice flying about on the internet that both women and men are often left wondering how the hell they can best please themselves and their partners. Female orgasm in particular is portrayed as a mysterious and personal experience and there are definitely some common orgasm myths that need to be debunked.

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Where Can I Find Great Porn?

“Where can I find great porn?” - I get this question all the time from friends and female clients and the truth is, I’ve never really had the perfect site to point people to. Firstly, we all get off on different stuff, so it’s hard for me to assume that just because like a certain type of porn, other people will like it too. Secondly, sifting through millions of porn sites in order to find a good one is goddamn time consuming and, after a while, it all looks (and sounds) the same.

Most mainstream porn is often produced by men, for men. Heterosexual porn is very much focused on pleasuring the male, and often gives a distorted view of sexuality, intimacy and human relations. Many women I speak with ask for porn recommendations that are suited more for the female gaze… porn that’s all about pleasuring the female and features real-life women enjoying pleasurable and realistic intimacy and sex.

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Stop Faking Orgasms

Betty & Carlin chat about how important it is to figure out what turns you on and take the matter into your own hands (literally). This discussion is very much about sex between a woman and a man but, if you're in a same-sex relationship, it still applies and can be adapted to sex between two women. Either way, it's super important that you tell your partner what you want, how you want it, and where you want it.

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Sex With The One You Love

Pleasuring your partner and making them cum is often a satisfying, fulfilling and powerful experience. Knowing that they enjoy how you touch them and turn them is often easy and comfortable.  Giving pleasure to another is a beautiful part of life.  

But what if you're always giving and deep down you want to learn how to receive pleasure?

What if you're not feeling fullfilled with your own pleasure and ability to reach orgasm?

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