I'll be honest with you: I've had a stressful month with some personal things going on behind the scenes. Instagram doesn't show the tough times, and I'm a human being having a human experience, just like you. So today I wanted to talk about relationship, because from the outside you see the cute Insta pics, but Nick and I have been together nine years, and we've traversed a lot. In this episode I'm sharing the non-sexual things we always come back to when things get hard: our core values, couples therapy, giving each other solitude, prioritising our health, leaning on friends and mentors, and making time for just the two of us. These are the go-tos that carry us through.

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In this episode, I'm talking about something I spend a lot of time on with my one-on-one clients and get asked about constantly in my DMs: the invisible things that kill your desire. Not just libido, but your desire to explore, to connect, for more. So many people experience mismatched libidos and low desire in long-term relating but have no idea why, and their partner's puzzled too. So I'm walking through the main things people don't realise are quietly killing it: the mental and emotional load, chronic stress and overstimulation, unspoken resentment, a lack of emotional safety, and more. And the reminder I want you to hold onto: if your libido is low, you're not broken. It's just information.

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In this episode, I'm talking about aging - something I've been pondering a lot lately, and something that keeps coming up with my friends and my clients, so I’, sure it's relatable for some of you. I'm 44 now, doing my absolute best to age gracefully. In this episode I'm getting honest about all of it: the dread I felt leading up to 40 and the therapy that shifted it, the two times I got Botox in my early 30s and cried in the car park afterwards, why my mentors and my children are what keep me embracing aging naturally, and the truth that it's both hard and deeply beautiful. Aging is a privilege, and I want my daughters to grow up knowing we don't need to change how we look to be beautiful.

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In case you missed the news flash, Nick and I got engaged in Tasmania, and someone inside SexLife™ recently asked me what marriage actually means to me. So here I am, doing a whole episode on it. Here's the honest part: right up until my late 30s, I had this story that I'm never going to get married. My parents divorced when I was 14, and I carried a story that you don't get married because you're going to get divorced anyway. In this episode I'm sharing how that changed - meeting Nick, the nine-year wait for him to propose, and what being fully chosen actually feels like in my body now.

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I'm recording this one from a very special spot, sitting in my new car, picked up this morning, overlooking the ocean. It felt like the perfect place to talk about something that's a huge part of my life: manifestation. I manifested this car. I manifested my dream man, the man I'm engaged to marry. In this episode, I'm sharing exactly how - the honest part about the work it takes, plus my actual process, from core values to vision boards to sex magic.

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This is the final rapid fire Q&A for a little while, as I’ve been working through the questions that were asked inside SexLife™. There are some really beautiful ones, and as always, I’m answering them the way I love to: like voice notes between friends.

In this episode I’m diving into: how to follow the pleasure after divorce without over-thinking whether you’re “doing it right,” how to feel and release more emotion when you’re someone who tends to suppress, how to work with a childhood wound around safety and not feeling chosen that keeps resurfacing even when your life is full and loved, and my take on morning versus night sex.

I also open up about my own week and share more of what’s been happening behind the scenes, the emotional work I’m moving through myself right now, and the cycles that show up again. Because none of this is one-and-done. We keep peeling back the layers.

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I’m back with another rapid fire Q&A, answering questions from the women inside SexLife™.

In this episode I’m answering four questions: how to keep the spark alive after 20 years together when he’s perfectly content and you’re craving more play and aliveness, how to train your body toward non-clitoral orgasms through edging and full-body energy, bringing more pleasure into a man’s life (in and out of the bedroom), and how to stop feeling a bit “ick” about sex when you’re deep in the logistics of raising kids and running a business together.

I also share a personal update from our first month settling in Sydney after a year and a half on the road, why grounding and health have become the priority for our family right now, and what’s been happening behind the scenes in life and business.

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I’m answering your questions, and I love these episodes because I promise you, if you’ve asked a question, there are others listening who have wondered the same thing and will get so much out of the answer.

In this episode I’m answering topics from questions and conversations inside SexLife™: how to relax enough to orgasm with a lover, how to surrender in bed when control has always felt safer, how to tell the difference between protection that’s still serving you and protection that’s just keeping you small, and how to keep the spark alive after 20 years together when one of you is perfectly content and the other is starving for more. These are rapid fire answers - honest, direct, and real.

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There was a point in my life where I thought great sex was just something you either had or you didn’t. You were born wildly sexual or born pretty vanilla, and that was it. In my opinion, that’s a complete lie. The truth is, most people are practicing the same three moves on repeat and calling it a sex life. Sex isn’t something you’re born naturally good at. It’s a skill, it’s presence, it’s a choice, and it’s something we work on, the same way a musician masters their instrument.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the four pillars of sexual artistry - inner work, presence, devotion, and creativity - and giving you a taste of the five sexual archetypes I work with, including each one’s gift and its shadow. Because knowing your archetype is step one, but what you do with it is the part that actually changes your sex life.

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Most of us learned sex through performance. It’s a goal-oriented script, and we’ve internalised it so deeply we don’t even know we’re following it.

When you actually slow down, and I mean really slow down, slower than feels comfortable or reasonable, the nervous system shifts. The breath deepens, the body softens, and your capacity for sensation expands in ways that will genuinely surprise you.

In this episode, I’m sharing four practical ways to bring slow sex into your life, how to introduce it with a partner, and what your body can do when it’s not being rushed. Because honestly, if you like it, you won't be able to go back to how it was before. And that's the point. It's going to ruin you in the most beautiful way.

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I’m going straight in on this one, no fluff. This episode dives into seven things I genuinely don’t recommend, and things I talk about a lot with clients and inside my community.

We cover: faking orgasms (and why it keeps everyone disconnected from the truth), treating sex like a performance instead of dropping into real presence, numbing yourself with alcohol just to feel open, overriding your body's no out of guilt, over-relying on vibrators, running on stress and poor sleep and wondering why your libido is low, or expecting your partner to magically know what you want. This is the episode you didn't know you needed.

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Most of us bring the career woman straight through the front door, and then wonder why we feel disconnected, touched-out, and never in the mood. This episode is about the 10-minute ritual you can do that changes all of that.

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