Lately I’ve been feeling like less sex and intimacy than usual, which bothers me. What bothers me more is that instead of taking ownership of my low libido, I realised I’ve been blaming my partner and playing the victim. Victim mentality is dangerous - victim mentality is when a person tends to regard him or herself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave like it were the case—even in the absence of clear evidence.
Read MoreAs a sex & relationship coach I work with all sorts of people from all different walks of life; single women who want to know how to get more sex, women who feel shame and guilt around sex, men who want to please their partner more, couples who’ve lost their libido and want to know how to get it back…you name it, I’ve helped people with it. I absolutely love my job and love helping people transform their lives through coaching.
Read MoreMost of us will meet many different types of soul mates throughout our lifetime. Every soul mate will have their own unique purpose in our life and we’ll share a different type of deep connection with them all.
Read MoreThe Taste Of Love Festival was a conference about sex, love and consciousness. Simply put, it was two full days of workshops about tantra, kundalini energy, orgasmic meditation, conscious kink and deep connection with lovers. Tantra believes that love making can last longer, and the old tantrics believe that orgasm can be a mystical experience, often the most readily available mystical experience of all. Tantra is believed to bring lovers closer, often feeling like they are united as one with each other, or a greater force.
Read MoreOn the top of my new year goals list is ‘read more’…so I’ve done some research and chosen five books about hot sex and healthy relationships that I’m going to tick off my reading list in the first half of 2016.
Read MoreThe biggest complaint I hear people say is that they’re not having enough sex with their long-term partner. Unfortunately, I don’t have the magic solution to this very real problem. Reality is, most couples seem to face the challenge at some stage or another during their relationship and, if one or both partners aren’t happy, it can lead to a relationship breakdown.
Read MoreSex is one of our biggest pleasures in life, and also one of our biggest pass times. Why then, does sex create so much confusion, heartbreak and misunderstanding between lovers? The fact is, women and men are completely different when it comes to sex and brain function.
Read MoreRule number one when it comes to sex: there is no normal. Sex is a big part of our lives and yet it’s still a very taboo topic of conversation in our society. As a result, we don’t talk about sex enough and the lack of sex-talk leads to assumptions being made about our sex lives; Are we having sex enough? Is what we do in the bedroom normal? Should we be having sex daily? Are our neighbours doing it more than us?
Read MoreSo there you are... in bed, having sex with your partner, but something feels missing. It’s that feeling where it’s semi-pleasurable, but they’re just not touching you the right way, yet you're unsure how to express it.
Read MoreLately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.
Read MoreLife as a serial entrepreneur and serial love addict isn’t always the best combination - both are long-term commitments that take time, passion and a hell-of-a-lot of energy and enthusiasm.
Read MoreWe all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.
Read MoreIt seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
Read MoreI’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
Read MoreIt seems we are all getting a little caught up in the daily grind and forgetting the importance of regular, healthy, pleasurable sex. Life is becoming more and more busy and feeling dissatisfied with sex is a common complaint amongst many. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, increasing your sexual happiness will do wonders for your overall physical and mental health and wellbeing. With this in mind, I have come up with 3 simple steps that give you a chance to boost your sexual happiness today:
Read MoreSex is supposed to be a fun, playful and pleasurable activity, right? Unfortunately sex is often associated with worry, anxiety and concern and many people are left wondering how they can make sex a more fun and enjoyable experience. With this in mind, I have come up with simple advice on how you can play more and worry less in the bedroom.
Read MoreSensate Body Focus was developed by pioneering sex researchers, Dr William Masters and Virginia Johnson and was originally designed to help lovers overcome challenges such as performance anxiety, lack of desire, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation and lack of orgasm. Challenges aside, Sensate Focus is now used as a powerful practice that encourages a deeper connection and intimacy between lovers.
Read MoreIn long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire?
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