As we move into the new solstice, now is the perfect time to take a moment for a mid-year review. You have the opportunity, right now, to stop and reflect on what you would like to open yourself up to and manifest in the second half of 2018.
The sacred art of pussy worship, is it even a thing? Yes, yes it is. And if you’re new to the idea of pussy worship then sit tight, because you’re about to learn a thing or two about what it really means to truly love a woman in her entirety. Pussy, Yoni, Vagina, Vulva, Cunt, Kitty, Flower … to be honest it really doesn’t matter what we call it, what matters is that we ALL honour and worship every woman’s pussy like a fucking temple. A temple that demands deep reverence, love and full respect. The gift of the sacred art of pussy worship is that the woman who is receiving can do just that; surrender to the man (or woman) who is worshipping them and receive the gift of presence and pleasure that unfolds.
As women, when we allow ourselves to be penetrated by another, we open our pussy and womb space (and quite possibly mouth and ass) up to the consciousness of our chosen lover. We take them into us physically and, we take them into us energetically. We absorb their consciousness into our entire being. Often when this happens we open ourselves up to all sorts of emotions and feelings that impact us on a deep level in both positive and negative ways.
Join me and others in supporting the elevation of sensuality, consciousness, embodiment, sexuality, intimacy, heart-fullness, art, beauty & life-force energy! In February 2018 I am facilitating workshops at the SPIRIT OF INTIMACY in Goa, India.
Today I'm feeling to talk about vulnerability and sharing our truth as individuals. I'm sharing about this because it's something that I'm exploring deeply within myself and it keeps showing up in my life as a challenge. You see, I share a lot of myself on social media and with my friends, but often when it comes to intimate relationships, I've noticed I hold back a little ... it's like I don't want to be 'too much' - too opinionated, too sexual, too business-focussed, too spiritual, too loving, too alternative, too mainstream, too crazy, too horny, too hippy ... fucking hell, it's crazy how we can judge ourselves and keep ourselves small just to please others.
Women, what's your relationship like with your cycle and your menstrual blood? How in tune with your body are you at the different stages of your cycle throughout the month? What do you do to honour your body during the time that you bleed? I'm asking these questions, because I wish someone had asked them of me years ago. You see, for years, I was that woman who 'pushed through' my period; I numbed my cramps with pain killers, plugged myself with tampons and kept working and exercising like a mad woman.
Women On Top is an interview series that features everyday women from around the globe and asks them straight-to-the-point questions about their sexuality. Women On Top aims to inspire and grow a community of women who learn and grow from each other's sexual stories and wisdom. This week I interviewed Jessica about her love of women, how her moon cycle influences her drive for sex, her BDSM sexual fantasy, and her desire for deep profound connection.
The sacred art of cock worship, is it even a thing? Yes, it is! And I’m here to tell you that it doesn’t require a bunch of magical Tantric sex techniques to achieve … in fact, cock worship is a simple and erotic practice that anyone can enjoy if they want it enough.So, what is cock worship? Well it’s a beautiful practice that involves worshipping and lavishing attention on the cock of your choice … naturally cock worship is best enjoyed with a lover of whom you adore.
She is a woman, who, through ritual or psychological development, has come to know the spiritual side of her sexuality, her true eroticism, and lives this out according to her individual circumstances. The Sacred Slut resides within us all, both women and men - she’s not ashamed of her sexuality, she embraces it all and owns that part of herself.
Creating a safe and sacred space for ourselves is the first step to experiencing solo and coupled Tantric sex. Personally, I have always been aware of how big an impact my surroundings have on my sensuality and sexuality, and so I always ensure my entire home feels like a sanctuary.
Yesterday was Mother’s day and it prompted me to think about life as a parent and the challenges we face juggling parenthood, work life, relationship life, and the all-important sex life. “What sex life?!”, I hear some of you sigh. Yeah well, I totally get it … parenting is FULL ON, kids can be demanding, and it’s super common for our sex lives to suffer as a result.
Is Tantric sex a ‘thing’ for women who have sex with women? How can we have deeper intimacy and ecstatic sex on a regular basis? My sex life with my woman is stale, how can I bring back the excitement? Every week I get questions from women who have sex with women about how they can experience better, more connected sex (on a regular basis). I myself have explored the world of Tantra with a female lover, and so I’m here to impart some secrets I’ve learnt along the way about Tantric lesbian sex.
Essential oils really are a huge part of my life and my sanity. I use them every single day in all sorts of ways, including to boost my sensuality and sex drive. What I love most about essential oils is that they are 100% natural and most of them are safe to use both externally, and internally. Plus they smell so damn good that they make my entire body and house smell super sensual and delicious.
What is ‘lesbian sex’? How do two women even have sex? I get these questions a fair bit and I actually get why it’s misunderstood; sex between two women isn’t spoken about enough, nor are we educated as children about it … so it’s no surprise that it’s a little tricky to understand. So today I’m here to impart some of my professional and personal knowledge and hot tips with you about beginners lesbian sex. This article is aimed for women who are curious, or wanting to have sex with women but don’t know where to begin.
Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
We all want to be enjoying ecstatic, orgasmic sex every day, right? “Yes!”, I hear you yell. Over the past few years I’ve written 100’s of blog posts about sex, and today I’ve picked my top 30 and put them all in the one place for your sensual reading pleasure.
Over the past few months essential oils have become a huge part of my everyday life, including my sex life. I use the oils in a hot bath, in a diffuser in my bedroom, on my skin as perfume, and in coconut oil as a massage oil and daily moisturiser. I can honestly say the oils have taken my sensual and sexual life to a whole new level of ecstasy!
Let’s be honest, some women just do not enjoy giving blow jobs, full stop. And you know what, that’s ok, because worshipping co*k isn’t every woman’s cup of tea, so to speak. But then there’s the women who think they don’t enjoy it, but actually just don’t really know what to do … and so they’re not feeling confident with their blow job skills. Dear women who don’t love giving blow jobs, this article is for you.
Let’s be honest, what entails ‘sexiness’ in a man isn’t just good looks and charm … there’s a whole heap of other stuff that drives women crazy. Gentleman, if you’re serious about meeting the woman of your dreams, or at least sleeping with the woman of your dreams, then read on and take note.
Kissing isn’t always about smacking your lips together and sharing saliva … no, there is so much more to kissing than that. So, what is it that makes for an exquisite kiss between two lovers? Is it the actual technique? Is it the energy exchange? Is it fast & passionate, or slow and lingering … or somewhere in-between?
Are you a lady in waiting attracting the prince whose looking good and going nowhere? Or are you a Queen ready for a King?
The lady in waiting can have a little bit of power by sleeping with a man and enchanting him with her sexuality. She can also have a little bit of power by meeting a man's desires, expectations and ideas of how his ideal woman should behave.
But she doesn't have legitimate power, because she is giving 80 per cent and he is only giving 20 per cent.
This year I pushed my boundaries in all ways possible; I surrounded myself with powerful, inspiring leaders in the area of sexuality & Tantra, I attended a myriad of workshops and events so that I could expand myself both personally and professionally, and I feel I truly experienced ecstasy and pleasure like never before. There were extreme highs, and there were extreme lows. There was extreme pain, and extreme pleasure. All-in-all I believe this year has been by far one of the best in my life (and that’s a BIG call, ‘cos my life has been pretty damn good).
We’re either doing it, or not doing it. Talking about it, or not talking about it. Thinking about it, or not thinking about it. It’s a topic of discussion amongst the young and old and yet, more often than not, a lot of us struggle with actually having enough energy throughout the day to enjoy intimacy & sex with our partners or, dare I say, with ourselves. There are many factors that need to be considered when thinking about our drive for sex, but for now let’s look at how adding superfoods into your diet can up your libido and zest for life.
Magical anal sex?! Is there even such a thing?! Yes, yes there is, and if you’re reading this, I’m suspecting you’re curious as to how to experience it. So, what are the basics of magical anal sex and why is it so damn magical? Here’s 5 practical tips for those who want to try it, or those who want it to be a super powerful and pleasurable sexual experience.
For those of you who have never experienced eye-fucking with a stranger, it goes a little something like this: firstly, you and your eye-fucking partner instantly feel that ‘something’ that draws you to each other … it’s like a magnetic sexual cosmic pull that’s intense from the moment you meet. The sexual chemistry is unashamedly there in all it’s glory and the energy between you both is like a bomb exploding inside your mind and body. Oh, and I refer to the connection as ‘cosmic’, because often it’s not always just your sex centre speaking, it’s your heart and your consciousness saying a ‘holy f*ck yes, yes, yes’ to that person.
Kundalini Tantra is, in a nutshell, a practice that involves integrating and understanding both the masculine and feminine energy within us all (masculine and feminine qualities are within both female and male bodies), and gives us the magical skill of being able to circulate the kundalini energy within our body to become lighter, deeper and freer lovers and human beings. I’m a big fan of anything that brings freedom and connectedness into my life and relationships, and this workshop did just that (and so much more).
Many clients come to me and report that sex is boring … it’s quick and very orgasm focussed and there’s something missing. Often my clients can’t pinpoint what is missing, but they know that there must be more to sex than what they’re experiencing. That something is the connection and intimacy that they unconsciously desire with their partner/lover and they don't know it's missing because they've never experienced it before.
When we choose to be in romantic relationship with another human, we choose to bare our soul and open our heart… all the while knowing that it may not work, it may not be the ‘forever fairytale’ we heard of as children, and it may, in the end, break our fu*cking heart to tiny little pieces. Yet knowing all this, we still enter into relationship… because there’s nothing quite like love and sex and all the fun stuff that relationship entails.
What I’ve discovered about me over the past few months is that I’ve been really great at being the ‘strong’ woman. From a very young age I remember being proud of the fact that I was ‘independent’. This got me through my parent’s divorce, allowed me to travel the world alone at age 17, carried me through the break down of my relationship with my daughter’s father, and then got me through the ongoing homophobia I experienced when I came out as Bisexual and entered into a relationship with a woman.
One of the biggest questions I get asked as a sexologist is ‘How do my partner and I take sex from f*cking… to making love?’ Unfortunately, there’s no simple and easy way to answer this question because each couple is different, and each individual brings their own ‘stuff’ into the relationship. By ‘stuff’, I mean challenges from the past; childhood trauma, abuse, past relationship baggage…all the pain experienced as a human that is left unresolved, pushed down and not dealt with. Much of this pain prevents us from getting close to our partner. By close, I mean truly intimate, connected and spiritually united.