Firstly, what is womanhood? The dictionary defines womanhood as ‘the state or condition of being a woman’…I believe womanhood is a deeply personal journey that differs from woman to woman, therefore I don’t see one definition as ‘truth’. My own journey into womanhood began when I gave birth to my daughter in 2006. It was my 24th birthday and I spent it in the depths of the most beautiful experience of my life; birthing the love of my life into the world. From that day forward I felt different, I felt like I finally knew what it meant to be a woman, and I had a new-found respect for women around the globe.
As a sex & relationship coach I work with all sorts of people from all different walks of life; single women who want to know how to get more sex, women who feel shame and guilt around sex, men who want to please their partner more, couples who’ve lost their libido and want to know how to get it back…you name it, I’ve helped people with it. I absolutely love my job and love helping people transform their lives through coaching.
Most of us will meet many different types of soul mates throughout our lifetime. Every soul mate will have their own unique purpose in our life and we’ll share a different type of deep connection with them all.
Let’s face it, it can take some time to feel completely sexually comfortable with someone. Sex isn’t always glitz and glamour, sex can occasionally be downright awkward…but that’s all part of the fun, right? Whether it’s a one-night-stand, or a long-term relationship, there’s a few steps that need to be taken in order for all parties to reach the comfort level needed for a fun sexual relationship.
Do you ever look at people in long term relationships and assume that everything is okay and that they’re cruising through life with ease? Or perhaps you look at your parents who’ve been married for 40 + years and vow never to be in a relationship like them?
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
The biggest complaint I hear people say is that they’re not having enough sex with their long-term partner. Unfortunately, I don’t have the magic solution to this very real problem. Reality is, most couples seem to face the challenge at some stage or another during their relationship and, if one or both partners aren’t happy, it can lead to a relationship breakdown.
You can control the things you do on a daily basis and control most aspects of your life, but the one thing you can’t control is other people. I am the first to admit that I am a control freak. I am constantly reminded of this when in relationship with others and over the years I have learnt to strangely love this part of myself. But as much as I can embrace my controlling personality, I know that it’s unhealthy to want to control my partner, and so I avoid doing this at all costs. The fact is, being a control freak in a relationship is not healthy, and is often detrimental in long term relationships.
Sex is one of our biggest pleasures in life, and also one of our biggest pass times. Why then, does sex create so much confusion, heartbreak and misunderstanding between lovers? The fact is, women and men are completely different when it comes to sex and brain function.
Let’s be honest, everyone at some stage has a secret sexual fantasy in the back of their mind (or their bedroom cupboard) that they are dying to share with their partner. Unfortunately, bringing up the topic of fantasy with a partner can be awkward, and often we end up keeping our sexual fantasies to ourselves. So how do we successfully go from fantasy, to reality? And what’s the best way to bring up the topic with our sexual partner?
We are all challenged by intimate long-term relationships at some stage in our life. The important thing is to identify what mistakes we are making, and resolve them as quick as possible. Here are 3 common relationship mistakes, and how to solve them.
So there you are... in bed, having sex with your partner, but something feels missing. It’s that feeling where it’s semi-pleasurable, but they’re just not touching you the right way, yet you're unsure how to express it.
It’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
Lately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.
Life as a serial entrepreneur and serial love addict isn’t always the best combination - both are long-term commitments that take time, passion and a hell-of-a-lot of energy and enthusiasm.
We all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.
It seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
Sex is supposed to bring us joy and pleasure, but more often than not sex is filled with worry, stress, and anxiety. The topic of sex is very complicated and it’s completely normal for every individual to have their different hangups and challenges about sex at different stages of life. If you do have sexual challenges that concern you, it may be time to chat to a professional and address the concerns. But before you do, read on and you may find that your worry is actually very common, and that perhaps you just need to stop worrying, let go, and start having more fun.
I’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
It seems we are all getting a little caught up in the daily grind and forgetting the importance of regular, healthy, pleasurable sex. Life is becoming more and more busy and feeling dissatisfied with sex is a common complaint amongst many. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, increasing your sexual happiness will do wonders for your overall physical and mental health and wellbeing. With this in mind, I have come up with 3 simple steps that give you a chance to boost your sexual happiness today:
