n theory, it makes sense to want sex all the time, right? Sex is a healthy and fun part of life—but sometimes it’s not at the top of our to-do lists. Often it just seems too hard to get our kit off and have sex with our partners. (Or even sex with ourselves!)
It is important to note that a rise and fall in libido (sex drive) is completely normal. It’s common for couples to go through stages of not having sex, and that’s okay. But sometimes an extended lack of sex becomes a source of concern or grievance for a couple.
Feeding our bodies with healthy, energising foods is essential for our overall health and happiness—and this is also the case when it comes to a healthy libido. There are certain foods that can boost your passion and increase your energy levels.
Here are the top four foods that I recommend you include in your everyday food intake to help your sexual appetite:
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Holistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff? Communication skills (i.e. how to say no and how to say yes), consent, same-sex relationships and attraction, not to mention the fact that sex can be pleasurable and fun aren’t readily discussed. These essential topics are nowhere to be seen in the current curriculum and teenagers are often left to feel their way (pardon the pun!) through the ins and outs of sex and sexuality.
With this in mind, I believe it’s up to us as parents to lead the way and have the ability to sufficiently and confidently educate our children about sex and intimacy. (Aka ‘the talk’.) Easier said than done, right? It’s natural for parents to struggle with how to approach the topic in the ‘right’ way and the truth is, there is no ‘right’ way - you have to do what feels right for you as the parent.
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Sex is supposed to be a fun, playful and pleasurable activity, right? Unfortunately sex is often associated with worry, anxiety and concern and many people are left wondering how they can make sex a more fun and enjoyable experience. With this in mind, I have come up with simple advice on how you can play more and worry less in the bedroom.
Read MoreLet’s face it - sex can become repetitive and boring if you keep doing the same thing over and over again. It’s up to you to try something new, and challenge the vanilla sex that you’ve become accustomed to. So while the temperatures plummet, think outside the box with 5 Ways To Kink up Sex This Winter.
Read MoreIt seems, for most of us, that sex education in high school was either mediocre, or non-existent. For me, it was very mediocre. It consisted of an hour in a ‘Sex Education' van in the back of the school yard learning about how to put a condom on a banana.
These days, nothing much has changed; today’s youth are learning most of their sex education via friends, porn and online resources. As a result, many teens are moving into adulthood sexually misinformed, often experiencing less than satisfactory sex with themselves and others. I myself wish my sex education was more holistic; filled with the juicy fun stuff, with a bit of serious stuff thrown in for good measure.
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Sensate Body Focus was developed by pioneering sex researchers, Dr William Masters and Virginia Johnson and was originally designed to help lovers overcome challenges such as performance anxiety, lack of desire, erectile dysfunction, rapid ejaculation and lack of orgasm. Challenges aside, Sensate Focus is now used as a powerful practice that encourages a deeper connection and intimacy between lovers.
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Photographer iO Tillett Wright grew up between genders and sexualities. She's shot 2,000 people who consider themselves somewhere on the LBGTQ spectrum and asked many: can they assign a percentage to how gay or straight they are? Most people consider themselves to exist in the grey areas of sexuality, which presents a real problem when it comes to discrimination. Because where do you draw the line? (Filmed at TEDxWomen.)
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It can be as simple as closing one’s eyes, delving into fantasy and reaching orgasm within seconds. Other times it can be a deeply spiritual practice that includes conscious breath work and a sacred sexual ritual. Neither way is right or wrong, what matters is that you enjoy the experience and feel absolutely amazing while you’re doing it.
Read MoreIn long-term relationships, we often expect our beloved to be both best friend and erotic partner. But as Esther Perel argues, good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. So how do you sustain desire?
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Pleasuring your partner and making them cum is often a satisfying, fulfilling and powerful experience. Knowing that they enjoy how you touch them and turn them is often easy and comfortable. Giving pleasure to another is a beautiful part of life.
But what if you're always giving and deep down you want to learn how to receive pleasure?
What if you're not feeling fullfilled with your own pleasure and ability to reach orgasm?
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As a young woman I experimented with my sexuality freely, openly and with confidence. When reflecting on my first sexual experience it was with a girl, we were both 14 years old.
Entering womanhood I found myself enjoying sex with both men and women, but mostly men. I was lucky enough to fall in love with more than one man during my twenties and at age 24 I was blessed with becoming a Mum to my beautiful daughter. I was in a loving relationship and happy and yet I knew deep down that I still had more to experience, more to explore.
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