We’re either doing it, or not doing it. Talking about it, or not talking about it. Thinking about it, or not thinking about it. It’s a topic of discussion amongst the young and old and yet, more often than not, a lot of us struggle with actually having enough energy throughout the day to enjoy intimacy & sex with our partners or, dare I say, with ourselves. There are many factors that need to be considered when thinking about our drive for sex, but for now let’s look at how adding superfoods into your diet can up your libido and zest for life.Read More
As a sexologist, I have a bookcase full of sex-related books that I regularly re-read for inspiration and education. Reading is a fantastic way to self-educate, which is essential if you want a plentiful and pleasurable sex life. If you’re in a relationship, reading about sex can open up a healthy discussion about sex with your partner, and is a sure fire way to spice up your sex life. If you’re single, there is no better time than now to begin empowering yourself as a sexual being. Reading about sex is bound to attract amazing sexual experiences into your life, and there’s nothing better than a well educated and confident lover!
The following is a list of 4 books that have something for everyone. I can almost guarantee that if you read them you will learn something new and feel inspired to live a life full of amazing and plentiful sex.Read More
I’m a big fan of self-pleasure; I was fortunate enough to discover my ‘pleasure spot’ at a young age and haven’t looked back since. I feel truly blessed that masturbation feels natural and that making myself cum has always been relatively easy.
Over the years though, I have discovered many women who have had a rough trot with masturbation; stories of shame and guilt (often somewhat associated with religion, surprise surprise), of the inability to reach orgasm through self-pleasure and women who just don’t feel the desire to pleasure themselves at all. All of the above feelings are completely normal and, if they resonate with you, believe me; you are not alone.Read More
Ever feel so wrapped up and passionate about your business that it’s a challenge to find time for your relationship and sex life? Feel like you are torn between two lovers, so to speak? Successfully balancing business and pleasure is an art form that requires patience, passion, communication and great health.
It’s no secret that sex is great for your physical and mental, health and wellbeing. Regular, healthy sex is fun, pleasurable and creates a unique opportunity to experience intimacy and connection with your partner. But what happens when business is busy and your fast-paced entrepreneurial lifestyle zaps you of any energy left to be intimate at the end of the day?Read More
It’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
Talking about sex is still somewhat ‘taboo’ and it’s not surprising that there are plenty of false myths that surround the topic of sex and intimacy. As a sexologist I am regularly busting these myths with my clients and helping people let go of limiting belief systems and ways of being. Doing so allows people to move forward and enjoy sex (without all the shame, guilt and misunderstanding that once was). With this in mind, it’s time to publicly debunk some of the common myths that surround the topic of sex in our culture.
Holistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff?Read More
Holistic sex education in Australian schools is scarce. If education does take place, it’s limited to the bare essentials - how to put a condom on a banana, alongside various scare tactics surrounding the contraction of STI’S, HIV and unplanned pregnancy. In no way am I suggesting that the aforementioned topics are not important, (because they are) but what about all the other stuff? Communication skills (i.e. how to say no and how to say yes), consent, same-sex relationships and attraction, not to mention the fact that sex can be pleasurable and fun aren’t readily discussed. These essential topics are nowhere to be seen in the current curriculum and teenagers are often left to feel their way (pardon the pun!) through the ins and outs of sex and sexuality.
With this in mind, I believe it’s up to us as parents to lead the way and have the ability to sufficiently and confidently educate our children about sex and intimacy. (Aka ‘the talk’.) Easier said than done, right? It’s natural for parents to struggle with how to approach the topic in the ‘right’ way and the truth is, there is no ‘right’ way - you have to do what feels right for you as the parent.Read More
I’m a big advocate for keeping the passion alive in long-term relationships, but I’m also a realist: life often becomes busy, and “stuff” gets in the way of a good old-fashioned fuck.Read More
Sex is supposed to be a fun, playful and pleasurable activity, right? Unfortunately sex is often associated with worry, anxiety and concern and many people are left wondering how they can make sex a more fun and enjoyable experience. With this in mind, I have come up with simple advice on how you can play more and worry less in the bedroom.Read More
Let’s face it - sex can become repetitive and boring if you keep doing the same thing over and over again. It’s up to you to try something new, and challenge the vanilla sex that you’ve become accustomed to. So while the temperatures plummet, think outside the box with 5 Ways To Kink up Sex This Winter.Read More
It’s not always easy to feel authentically sexy and comfortable in our own skin, especially when it comes to sex and intimacy. ‘Stuff’ seems to get in the way of our natural ability to feel and radiate sexiness. We are created to be sexy and yet somehow, over the years, we are hit with some hard knocks; break-ups, heartbreak, awkward sexual experiences, death of loved ones… the list goes on. Life is often challenging but it’s up to us to pick ourselves up and reclaim our right to embrace our bodies and our desire for sexy, hot sex.Read More
It seems, for most of us, that sex education in high school was either mediocre, or non-existent. For me, it was very mediocre. It consisted of an hour in a ‘Sex Education' van in the back of the school yard learning about how to put a condom on a banana.
These days, nothing much has changed; today’s youth are learning most of their sex education via friends, porn and online resources. As a result, many teens are moving into adulthood sexually misinformed, often experiencing less than satisfactory sex with themselves and others. I myself wish my sex education was more holistic; filled with the juicy fun stuff, with a bit of serious stuff thrown in for good measure.Read More