It seems there are a lot of myths surrounding the topic of anal sex; it’s painful, men want it more than us women, women who love it are dirty. The list goes on and on, which leads to a misconception that the only people who love it are men having sex with men, and this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Anal sex is still somewhat of a taboo topic in mainstream conversation and, as far as I’m concerned, it’s not talked about enough. Which brings me to 5 anal sex myths (de-bunked):
What is ‘lesbian sex’? How do two women even have sex? I get these questions a fair bit and I actually get why it’s misunderstood; sex between two women isn’t spoken about enough, nor are we educated as children about it … so it’s no surprise that it’s a little tricky to understand. So today I’m here to impart some of my professional and personal knowledge and hot tips with you about beginners lesbian sex. This article is aimed for women who are curious, or wanting to have sex with women but don’t know where to begin.
Let’s face it, women are not always easy to pleasure, nor are they easy to please. I know this because I am a woman, plus I’ve experienced sex with a number of women and wow, we certainly are all very unique in how we experience pleasure. If you’re reading this and relate, I’m here to give you a couple of simple tips and tricks that will guarantee increased pleasure that your woman experiences when she is with you next.
We all want to be enjoying ecstatic, orgasmic sex every day, right? “Yes!”, I hear you yell. Over the past few years I’ve written 100’s of blog posts about sex, and today I’ve picked my top 30 and put them all in the one place for your sensual reading pleasure.
As a Sexologist, sex-enthusiast and mother, I offer you the following advice: talk to your kids about sex, masturbation, intimacy & sexual energy from a very young age. And another piece of advice … if you’re reading this and cringing, I suggest you get to a a good sex therapist/coach and dive deep into sorting out the ‘stuff’ that holds you back from having these conversations … because trust me, if you’re not comfortable talking about sex, then your kids won’t be either … and so the cycle will continue through the generations.
In today’s media there’s always so much emphasis placed on ecstatic orgasm, mind-blowing sex toys, crazy love-making positions and ways to pleasure our lovers that will drive them crazy … and that’s all well and good, but why isn’t lube being getting the wrap it deserves as a handy accompaniment to all these wild sexual practices?
I feel like there’s a lot of myths and stigma surrounding ‘period sex’ that I‘m ready to bust. Firstly, I’m sick and tired of seeing men’s faces screw up when the topic of periods and sex are brought up in conversation. Seriously, it’s time to open up men (and women) to the possibility that there’s SO much more to ‘period sex’ than just a traditional penetrative fu*k. And gentleman, seriously, you need to get over your period blood phobia and man up.
This year I pushed my boundaries in all ways possible; I surrounded myself with powerful, inspiring leaders in the area of sexuality & Tantra, I attended a myriad of workshops and events so that I could expand myself both personally and professionally, and I feel I truly experienced ecstasy and pleasure like never before. There were extreme highs, and there were extreme lows. There was extreme pain, and extreme pleasure. All-in-all I believe this year has been by far one of the best in my life (and that’s a BIG call, ‘cos my life has been pretty damn good).
We’re either doing it, or not doing it. Talking about it, or not talking about it. Thinking about it, or not thinking about it. It’s a topic of discussion amongst the young and old and yet, more often than not, a lot of us struggle with actually having enough energy throughout the day to enjoy intimacy & sex with our partners or, dare I say, with ourselves. There are many factors that need to be considered when thinking about our drive for sex, but for now let’s look at how adding superfoods into your diet can up your libido and zest for life.
It’s the age old question - ‘Should we have sex when we are bleeding?’. Well I say yes … if you want to that is. Truth is, like any other sexual activity, sex while menstruating is a personal preference. Some of us love it, some don’t. The bottom line is that we need to respect and love each other whether we do or don’t enjoy it.
Ladies, let’s be completely honest, there’s nothing worse than having a vagina that’s feeling a little ‘under the weather’. An itchy, sore, irritated vagina is downright annoying and if it’s an ongoing challenge it can seriously affect our physical and mental health and wellbeing. Reality is, vaginas are sensitive creatures that need tender loving care all-year-round. Here’s some practical tips on how you can take care of your precious love-making yoni on a daily basis.
As a sexologist, I have a bookcase full of sex-related books that I regularly re-read for inspiration and education. Reading is a fantastic way to self-educate, which is essential if you want a plentiful and pleasurable sex life. If you’re in a relationship, reading about sex can open up a healthy discussion about sex with your partner, and is a sure fire way to spice up your sex life. If you’re single, there is no better time than now to begin empowering yourself as a sexual being. Reading about sex is bound to attract amazing sexual experiences into your life, and there’s nothing better than a well educated and confident lover!
The following is a list of 4 books that have something for everyone. I can almost guarantee that if you read them you will learn something new and feel inspired to live a life full of amazing and plentiful sex.
Firstly, I believe we need to be honest and open with our children. This means no silly stories about ‘stalks’ bringing babies, and no ignoring the fact that your children are being exposed to sex via media and porn from a very young age. If you feel uncomfortable talking about sex to your children, this is a sign that you yourself need to work on your own ‘stuff’ that prevents you from being able to talk to your own children about it. Go see a therapist, read about sex, educate yourself, and deal with any past trauma that’s preventing you from being comfortable with the topic.
Many women (and men) have no clue how to navigate their way around the clitoris, which ultimately leads to sex being less than satisfying and creates much confusion in the boudoir. I admit that I had no clue where my clitoris was until my early 20’s…I knew that something down there felt God damn great, but I wasn’t aware that it was called a clitoris. So with this in mind, here are 5 must-know facts about the clitoris that I encourage you to share with your daughters, friends and the world:
As a sex & relationship coach I work with all sorts of people from all different walks of life; single women who want to know how to get more sex, women who feel shame and guilt around sex, men who want to please their partner more, couples who’ve lost their libido and want to know how to get it back…you name it, I’ve helped people with it. I absolutely love my job and love helping people transform their lives through coaching.
I’m a big fan of self-pleasure; I was fortunate enough to discover my ‘pleasure spot’ at a young age and haven’t looked back since. I feel truly blessed that masturbation feels natural and that making myself cum has always been relatively easy.
Over the years though, I have discovered many women who have had a rough trot with masturbation; stories of shame and guilt (often somewhat associated with religion, surprise surprise), of the inability to reach orgasm through self-pleasure and women who just don’t feel the desire to pleasure themselves at all. All of the above feelings are completely normal and, if they resonate with you, believe me; you are not alone.
Ever feel so wrapped up and passionate about your business that it’s a challenge to find time for your relationship and sex life?Feel like you are torn between two lovers, so to speak? Successfully balancing business and pleasure is an art form that requires patience, passion, communication and great health.
It’s no secret that sex is great for your physical and mental, health and wellbeing. Regular, healthy sex is fun, pleasurable andcreates a unique opportunity to experience intimacy and connection with your partner. But what happens when business is busy and your fast-paced entrepreneurial lifestyle zaps you of any energy left to be intimate at the end of the day?
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
On the top of my new year goals list is ‘read more’…so I’ve done some research and chosen five books about hot sex and healthy relationships that I’m going to tick off my reading list in the first half of 2016.
It’s January 1st, and I’m feeling adventurous. On my list of goals for 2016 I have written in bold: ‘Explore My Sexuality Even More’ . Naturally as a Sexologist it’s assumed that I’ve tried and tested almost everything… but the truth is there is always room for new experiences and growth and I truly believe that exploring my sexuality will be a life-long adventure.
So in the spirit of fun and ‘sex education’, I’m adding five new sexual adventures to my own bucket-list in 2016. No, I’m not going to share my personal sexual goals, ‘cos my sex life is mine, and I’m keeping it that way. However for your own pleasure, I have listed five new ideas that you may like to add to your own list. Perhaps you’ve already ticked these off, or you have other ideas that float your boat…either way enjoy 2016 and remember that owning your sexuality and sexual power is God damn sexy.
Sex is one of our biggest pleasures in life, and also one of our biggest pass times. Why then, does sex create so much confusion, heartbreak and misunderstanding between lovers? The fact is, women and men are completely different when it comes to sex and brain function.
Let’s be honest, everyone at some stage has a secret sexual fantasy in the back of their mind (or their bedroom cupboard) that they are dying to share with their partner. Unfortunately, bringing up the topic of fantasy with a partner can be awkward, and often we end up keeping our sexual fantasies to ourselves. So how do we successfully go from fantasy, to reality? And what’s the best way to bring up the topic with our sexual partner?
I’m a big believer in living simply and letting go of clutter that no longer serves me - this applies to both my home, and my head. I believe that if our house is messy and full of junk, then it’s a pretty good reflection of where our head is at. My advice: get rid of the messy clutter that you don’t need and allow new energy to flow into your home and your body.
As a sexologist a big part of my job is to spend time with amazing people who want to solve their sex challenges and feel empowered as sexual beings. Sexuality coaching is fast becoming popular globally and I believe it’s an essential ingredient if you’re seeking a healthy and pleasurable sex life.
So what the hell is sexuality coaching? Well, it’s about getting real with how you desire to feel and what you want to experience sexually. As a sexuality coach I give my clients tools that will empower them to move forward and create opportunities for growth and exploration. If you’re seeking more sex, and more fulfilling sex, then sexuality coaching is for you. I guess you can liken coaching to therapy, but coaching focuses on moving forward and getting what you want.
It’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
t seems that in today’s day and age, the topic of condoms still remains largely taboo. Many people feel as uncomfortable talking about condoms, as they do talking about sex. So why is it that people don’t feel comfortable talking about them, and more importantly, why aren’t they using them regularly?
Myths about condom usage are common in our society and a lack of education is responsible for the increasing jump in STI and HIV rates in young Australians. Which leads me to debunking my top 3 condoms myths:
What the hell is a sexologist? Are you serious, does such a career even exist? How did you become a sexologist? I get asked all these questions, and more, on a weekly basis. With this in mind, it’s about time I write about a day in the life of me; a full-time sexologist, writer, mother and lover.
Why is it that so many men (and women) feel like it’s ok to avoid using condoms? Listen up people, the rates of STI’s and HIV are rapidly rising in Australia, and yet many of us still think it’s OK to waltz around the bedroom naked without even the thought of using protection.
We all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.