Lately I’ve been feeling like less sex and intimacy than usual, which bothers me. What bothers me more is that instead of taking ownership of my low libido, I realised I’ve been blaming my partner and playing the victim. Victim mentality is dangerous - victim mentality is when a person tends to regard him or herself as a victim of the negative actions of others, and to behave like it were the case—even in the absence of clear evidence.
Read MoreAs a sex & relationship coach I work with all sorts of people from all different walks of life; single women who want to know how to get more sex, women who feel shame and guilt around sex, men who want to please their partner more, couples who’ve lost their libido and want to know how to get it back…you name it, I’ve helped people with it. I absolutely love my job and love helping people transform their lives through coaching.
Read MoreMost of us will meet many different types of soul mates throughout our lifetime. Every soul mate will have their own unique purpose in our life and we’ll share a different type of deep connection with them all.
Read MoreLet’s face it, it can take some time to feel completely sexually comfortable with someone. Sex isn’t always glitz and glamour, sex can occasionally be downright awkward…but that’s all part of the fun, right? Whether it’s a one-night-stand, or a long-term relationship, there’s a few steps that need to be taken in order for all parties to reach the comfort level needed for a fun sexual relationship.
Read MoreI’ve been in a committed relationship with my beautiful fiancé for 4 years. When we met and began dating I never expected us to one-day be engaged to marry…and yet here I am, planning a lifetime together with another woman.
From the outside, our relationship appears to be a magical gay fairytale: two beautiful women fall in love and live happily-ever-after with daughter and dog. In reality, it’s not always that straight-forward, in fact our relationship goes through major ups and downs, just like any other couple.
Read MoreIf you've recently become orgasmic using a vibrator, bring it into partnersex.
Read MoreOn the top of my new year goals list is ‘read more’…so I’ve done some research and chosen five books about hot sex and healthy relationships that I’m going to tick off my reading list in the first half of 2016.
Read MoreThe biggest complaint I hear people say is that they’re not having enough sex with their long-term partner. Unfortunately, I don’t have the magic solution to this very real problem. Reality is, most couples seem to face the challenge at some stage or another during their relationship and, if one or both partners aren’t happy, it can lead to a relationship breakdown.
Read MoreSex is one of our biggest pleasures in life, and also one of our biggest pass times. Why then, does sex create so much confusion, heartbreak and misunderstanding between lovers? The fact is, women and men are completely different when it comes to sex and brain function.
Read MoreRule number one when it comes to sex: there is no normal. Sex is a big part of our lives and yet it’s still a very taboo topic of conversation in our society. As a result, we don’t talk about sex enough and the lack of sex-talk leads to assumptions being made about our sex lives; Are we having sex enough? Is what we do in the bedroom normal? Should we be having sex daily? Are our neighbours doing it more than us?
Read MoreLet’s be honest, everyone at some stage has a secret sexual fantasy in the back of their mind (or their bedroom cupboard) that they are dying to share with their partner. Unfortunately, bringing up the topic of fantasy with a partner can be awkward, and often we end up keeping our sexual fantasies to ourselves. So how do we successfully go from fantasy, to reality? And what’s the best way to bring up the topic with our sexual partner?
Read MoreI’m a big believer in living simply and letting go of clutter that no longer serves me - this applies to both my home, and my head. I believe that if our house is messy and full of junk, then it’s a pretty good reflection of where our head is at. My advice: get rid of the messy clutter that you don’t need and allow new energy to flow into your home and your body.
Read MoreIt’s 2015 and women are faking orgasms left, right and centre. Personally I believe faking an orgasm is ripping myself off, which is why I choose not to do it. I’d rather not have an orgasm at all, than fake it with my partner. But not every woman is the same, in fact many women I speak to say they feel dissatisfied sexually and would rather ‘get it over and done with’. When this scenario plays out, their lovers assume their partner is sexually satisfied, and therefor don’t see the need to go the extra mile.
Read MoreSo there you are... in bed, having sex with your partner, but something feels missing. It’s that feeling where it’s semi-pleasurable, but they’re just not touching you the right way, yet you're unsure how to express it.
Read MoreIt’s easy to get caught up in the common myths that circulate in society about sex. As taboo as the topic is, it seems people love gossiping about the ‘rights and wrongs’ and the ins and outs (pardon the pun) of sex and relationships. Today, I’m here to debunk my top 3 myths and clear up the little lies that we seem to tell ourselves about what should be a normal, natural and healthy part of life.
Lately I’ve been thinking lots about the sensual side of relationships…not so much the physical sex, but the experiences that help us feel connection and love on a day-to-day basis. I believe that every woman and man secretly (or not-so-secretly) crave the following experiences and that they are the sensual building blocks of healthy and pleasurable relationships.
Read MoreLife as a serial entrepreneur and serial love addict isn’t always the best combination - both are long-term commitments that take time, passion and a hell-of-a-lot of energy and enthusiasm.
Read MoreWe all know what it’s like when life gets stressful…our emotional and physical health takes a dive and before long we find ourselves feeling like crap. All of us at some stage in life will experience major life events that increase our stress levels - illness, death of loved ones, work stress, sleepless nights with kids, failed friendships, broken hearts. The fact of the matter is that stress affects all areas of our lives, and often times, it ends up affecting our sex life.
Read MoreIt seems that in today’s day and age, there is a unique art to keeping a loving relationship alive and well. The rates of divorce are always on the rise and there is an epidemic of unhappy couples and failed long-term relationships. If I held the key to keeping the spark alive, then I’d be one happy and wealthy sexologist. Unfortunately though, every individual relationship has its own unique challenges, and there is no quick fix for a once happy (and now falling-to-bits) couple.
Read MoreI’m sick and tired of everyone talking about 50 Shades of Grey. Don’t get me wrong - I’ve read the book and seen the movie. Overall I think it’s great that conversations about a kind of sex not usually depicted in the mainstream have opened up. But today I’m not interested in talking about BDSM or the movies as such. Today I’m talking about 50 Shades of Gay. As much as the mainstream embraced BDSM, it still kind of fails to embrace all the shades. That’s right - I’m talking sexuality, and the fact it’s not black and white or always heteronormative. Sexuality should be discussed and re-branded as being one of many possibilities.
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